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Hi mate. Well done for voicing your thoughts and feelings.

I would say this: Women are not evil. Women are people. And when you’re in or want to be in some kind of relationship with a person, sometimes you will get hurt. Because sometimes the feelings you have will not be reciprocated. But that is equally true for women attracted to men, women attracted to women, men attracted to men, and trans-people, etc.

It has nothing to do with gender IMO.

In fact, I’ll go out on a limb and say that I feel pretty lucky as a man attracted to women. When I look back on my life, I have been mortally shy towards women, but nonetheless, severall have expressed interest in me, most have been kind to me, and some have even started a relationship with me, their initiative.

Women get a lot of rap for talking too much, but I’ve recently noticed that it seems to be the other way round: Women are actually quite good listeners, but we men think we have to say a lot of smart/witty stuff to impress them, so we just blabber on and on.

Also, if you look at crime etc., we men are massively overrepresented in the statistics. And that’s not even talking about partner violence, rape, gender-based discrimination and sexism. 30% of women worldwide have been the victims of partner violence. That is just staggering.

I’m not trying to attack men. I’m a man myself. I’m just saying that even though we men have serious problems, we can’t pin them on women. Many of our problems are universal for human beings, and can only be solved together, regardless of gender.