So… I’m planning to commit suicide soon.
I’m with him for 5 years now, we live together but I’m not in love anymore. He knows something is wrong, we don’t cuddle or have sex anymore, I’m often alone in the bedroom, I don’t talk a lot to him anymore…
I don’t know if I should break up with him before killing myself. Or should I let him believe that there was hope for us ? What’s better for him ? “My girlfriend killed herself” or “My ex-girlfriend killed herself” ? I don’t want to hurt him but I would like to be honnest before I leave this world. But I don’t want people to think that I commited suicide because my relationship ended.
I wish my english was better so I could explain better… What do you think ?
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No don’t okay, don’t kill yourself try your damnest to fix things show him you love him and want to be there with him.
He’s not the reason I want to kill myself! It has nothing to do with this relationship.
Perhaps you should just be honest with him and tell him you are thinking of suicide. It does not matter if you break up with him or not, because once he finds out you are dead, he will feel terrible either way.
I’ve wrestled with this question too. I think the answer is to treat the 2 problems separately. If you’re sure it’s not going to work out, break up with him first. Then wait a few months before considering suicide.
You never know, after you solve the 1st problem maybe the 2nd problem will go away. It’s worth a try, right?
Well you wouldn’t want him to think its his fault.. You shouldn’t kill yourself at all
I would break up with him, if I don’t love him any more. It will be easier for both parties.
If he cares about you, he’ll feel like he wasn’t a good enough reason for you to not kill yourself… regardless of whether you officially terminate the relationship.
However…
Breaking up w/ him first might make it worse, because not only will he feel that he wasn’t good enough for you to even live, but even getting away from him wasn’t enough.
I think in this situation the only way you might be able to create any sort of “buffer,” is to wait until he has found someone else. He’ll still be sad/angry/whatever, but at least it won’t be “his one.”
I recommend not staying in an undesirable relationship. And like cyanides said: maybe if you solve problem#1, problem#2 will get better… or perhaps a solution will become available in a different situation.
T’est francophone? tu peux parle en francais si tu veux. Je pense qu’il ya plusieurs personnes ici qui au moin comprehends un peux.
If not? oops.
My friend did that before he killed himself.. broke up with his girlfriend before he died. Was it better for her? It told her that he cared enough about her to try to put some distance between them to alleviate the pain his passing would cause.
I think he’ll probably be a mess regardless of what you do.. if he cares for you and i imagine he does?
J’ai vu un commentaire en français! Et okay, grand chose oui? Mais c’est ma curiosité.. parlez vous français Roquette?… je parle un petit peu.