…is anyone on this site not a teenager? Specifically, at least 20 years old and dealing with adult problems like, wallowing in debt, seeing everyone getting married with children and wondering if you’ll be alone forever etc.
I don’t mean to invalidate the pain of the young ones on this site but, being a teenager is supposed to be tough. You’re growing up, trying to become yourself, yet you got parents and teachers telling you who to be at the same time.
If you can get through this tough time, you’ll most likely be fine.You’ll learn that all the playground politics and late homework are trivial to life.
If you leave those teenage years, and feel shittier, as myself, well then welcome to the club.
But teenage “angst” is real my friends…
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although it might not seem like it at times, i think this site actually has a pretty wide distribution of ages and if you want you can look at a previous post specifically about this…
at any rate i am also out of those horrible years of my life, and while my situation has seemingly improved since i am no longer in the same environment, my outlook has not exactly changed
if that’s how you’re feeling, i understand.
I understand you in a way i am 21 this month and i have been with my man for 6 years but the problem is i have only seen him in person twice since he lives across the country (we met online), i am in a huge amount of debt without a job and rely on my parents for financial support still, i get so angry at the people around me especially my sister who married her husband at the red wing arena after only 2 years with him… my dream has been to be married and have 7 children running around to keep up with and i often feel at this rate i will never achieve it… One of the worst feelings is falling asleep alone but my advice i guess could be what i do, every night before i fall asleep i “daydream” making up these miraculous stories where the man of my dreams saves me or i’m an important person of some type with lots of drama and action i know it sounds sort of cliche but it makes me feel a little better and sometimes it seeps into my dreams
@1298: I’d be interested in seeing that post. I just think adolescents should stick it out, not commit suicide. Judging from the people I knew as a teenager who grew into beautiful, emotionally healthy adults, despite suffering a lot, those years truly are formative and one changes so much. Ironically, my teen years were pretty good in comparison. Wasn’t until I reached 20-21 that things really took a nosedive.
@wolfie: *hugs* I know what that feels like; loneliness or fear of being alone eats away at the soul. I hope you find your prince charming closer to where you are, or perhaps this far-away fellow comes to be with you. I also want a huge brood! I want as many little ones as I can pop out! Haha unfortunately, as a single 22 year old with no social life, my biological clock has begun ticking, probably making me appear a bit desperate. 🙁
This is why I want to die, for I feel that instead of getting better, my life will get worse. I mean, maybe I will fall in love, but I won’t get married because I like the wrong gender. Besides, even if I did fall in love, the flame would eventually die out. Every couple splits apart or dies in the end. Love is just hormones acting up anyways, and no one will ever be able to truly understand or love you. Love is never unconditional. Sorry, but I’m depressing I know.
here are two past ones about age:
http://suicideproject.org/2011/09/how-old-are-you-all-just-wondering-because/
http://suicideproject.org/2013/09/age-2/
yeah it is sad that a lot of teenagers don’t wait it out , but thinking back, while i have not regretted not killing myself, i also wonder if it will matter all that much in the long run, considering i might soon
I get what you mean, but what if I’m not strong enough? I’ve been trampled on my whole life. My real mom neglected me, my step mom is always stressed, sick and yelling, and also, I mean, shit, what the HECK am I supposed to do? Being a fourteen year old crippled girl isn’t the easiest thing to overcome. In fact, it’s probably the hardest. I hate it. People BULLY ME, they mimic the way I walk, they call me names and claim I’m nothing but a joke who can’t do anything right. On top of that, I’m a cutter. What am I supposed to do?
@depressednihilist95-
Have you ever been in love? It’s a wonderful feeling. The hope of finding love again, after all the heartbreak and loss I’ve experienced, is the only thing keeping me here.
Not sure which country you live in, but the US in the past few years has made great leaps regarding marriage equality. Even so, if you are homosexual, do you think you need a marriage license to be in love? To qualify that love? There are many happy homosexual couples, and you can find a mate.
@anonymousmusic–
First of all, I understand what you’re going through. I was adopted at 8 by my grandmother and abusive grandfather because my parents were unable to care for me. I felt so alone, and scared, spent most of my time in my room. No one ever taught me basic living skills such as house cleaning, dental hygiene, how to be a young woman, self-confidence, etc. Now, at almost 23, I’m learning all of these things myself and it creates a lot of anger and resentment; if only I had parents, I’d be normal. But, shit, I realized I was always normal, it’s just the things that happened to me weren’t.
Being crippled in high school, although I don’t have experience with it, can be hell. Teenagers can be very mean, and judgemental, and highly immature. I know this is hard to see now, since you are a teenager still yourself, but try to remember this. A lot of people get bullied in school, even those physically abled. If I went back to high school today, I’d make a fool out of all those bullies and pay them no mind! But this is because I’ve experienced the real world, adulthood. You know who are the “popular” people in the adult world? The caring, supportive, accepting, and nice people. If you’re an asshole who makes fun of people, others will avoid you and wonder what emotional damage and insecurities brought this mean quality out in you.
I can’t say it will get better, but I know how it can: you must try and love yourself. Don’t believe what others say about you, not your stepmother, or peers. You define yourself. Learn to paint, write a poem, take up a hobby, these will help you gain confidence in yourself. Next time a bully says something mean, just say “You’re an asshole. You have no idea what it’s like to be me” roll your eyes, give them the finger and never acknowledge their existence from then on. Ever.
Good luck. I’d be home schooled if I were you though. High school is an evil joke.
I will be 24 on October 30th. I have accomplished nothing with my life according to social standards. I live on my own off of disability. I know what people think of people living off of social assistance. I am not really suicidal in the sense that I have a plan but in the sense that I would not be terribly upset if I died.
@whyohwhysky,
it’s ok to be 22 and single i doubt you’re desperate lol and even if you were there really isn’t any shame in it, i mean if i lost my man i would be devistated and try to find someone as fast as possible just so i could have all the kids i want lol but i guess socioty sees negatively on that lol, and that really sucks what you went through with your grandparents but at least now you see you are a bigger person 🙂
@anonymousmusic–
i agree with whyohwhysky on this i know from experience being crippled through high school is tough… i was the fat cripple girl in high school who ate her food in the bathroom to avoid the bullies, it isn’t the easiest especially when you don’t have a loving family environment to come home to, but you need to realize that someday all those ailments and problems will not only make you stronger but will define who you are, weather it makes you a better person or not is for you to decide, if you choose to come out of your experiences as a vengeful and plain hateful person towards the world then i can’t say life will get better but if you embrace what you have experienced and will experience then you will learn there are people out there suffering like you and who need people like you to help them just as you need them. focus on simply making yourself a better person (if you aren’t already xD) and just know that someday people will see you for this and admire you maybe even look up to you for it 🙂 i find that if i try to be the nicest and most loving person i can be it kind of takes my mind off of how much pain i am in as cheesy as that sounds lol
@JSReynolds
you shouldn’t look at social standards and if you are so concerned about social standards you could try and find others who are going through much the same as you and try to help them feel needed in this world just like you do helping people gives you a sense of accomplishment that is like no other and i have a feeling that if you tried it might change your view on your life