My biological father who has not been a part of my life since I was a baby. My disabilities may be why he abandoned me. I have had almost no contact with him in my life. I wanted him to raise me as his daughter, teach me things, care about me. I wanted to love him. Now I feel like it may be too late to have any sort of contact with him. I mean if he were to show up in my life sometime in the future. I guess the question is does he deserve to be part of my life at all or does he deserve the cold shoulder forever? I didn’t ever have a dad in my life, cause he chose not to be there, and had a LOT of extra problems piled on top of all the tremendous problems I was born with, because he was not around. For instance I needed to learn by trial and error over many years what most people would learn from one hour if their dad was there to teach them. I just think it’s cruel, that my dad abandoned me, but he seems to expect that I would still love him as a father??? Even that he hasn’t been a father to me??? I have a stepfather you know, but our relationship has always been like strangers in a shopping mall, not anything more than that. Which is fine with me, we just have nothing in common and no desire to connect.
So here’s the vote if my biological dad ever tries to show up in my life again, should I accept him or cast him out of my life forever?
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Honestly he probably never will, so worry about this when/if the time comes.
I feel the same way that you do about my father. But unfortunately my father didn’t abandon me (wish he would have), physically at least. He was just an impotent piece of shit, so he took his frustrations out on me.
Sorry you went through that. It takes someone who’s been through it too to truly understand where you’re coming from.