I’ve always wanted to have kids someday. Four to be exact. I know what you’re thinking, that’s a lot of kids. Well yes, but I love children and I’ve always wanted to have two of my own and to adopt two. I want to spoil them and love them as much as possible. I want to give them the world! But today, I stopped and I thought about the little boy or girl I’ll bring into this world someday.. and I realized I didn’t want that for them. I dont want want my children to grow up in such an ugly, hurtful world. I never want them to feel the pain I’ve felt or experience the things I have. It’s not fair to them, why should I allow my children to be exposed to such a terrible place? They shouldn’t have to ever feel pain or ever hurt. They shouldn’t have to experience depression or self-hate. I never want them to hear that their best friend tried to commit suicide or for them to ever know that I once attempted the same thing. I don’t want them to experience heartbreak or what it does to them. I don’t want them to know what it feels like to lose someone they love. I don’t want them to feel that someone is ever disappointed in them because that is one of the worst feelings in the world.
There’s so many reasons why I don’t want to bring children into this world.. It’s not fair and I don’t know if I could bear to see them grow up in such a terrible place.. in this world.
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Fair argument. I myself don’t think I’ll ever have children either. I’ve never even been in a relationship and don’t really love myself, so how could I possibly love someone else romantically and even have children? Not to mention I know for a fact I’d do a better job at being a father to my hypothetical children than mine was to me and that sorta makes me a little jealous. My children would’ve got to have a father figure in their lives despite the fact that their own father was raised mainly by his mother. And like you said, it’s an ugly world out there.
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I just think it’s wrong for people to want kids. It’s like, you’re forcing an entity to enter this world who might (or might not) want to be here, just so you have a family, or whatever. I think that’s beyond selfish.
“Accidents,” as they’re routinely called, are perhaps even more unfair, since the “result” (if you will) is not even wanted, in most cases.
I think both of these issues are issues in first-world countries, but are much more problematic in third-world countries. There’s disease, poverty, etc – why in the world would anybody want to bring a child into that?
Moreover, on a (loosely) related topic, I still say suicide should be legal, and that there should be, like, clinics you can go to to just…die. I wasn’t asked to be here, and I’ll leave whenever the hell I want, thank you very much.
I didn’t realize suicide was illegal until I went to the hospital for attempting.
good dont bring them here.
You are wiser than most people. Most people just shove the long-term consequences out of mind and have them to satisfy their selfish needs. I so wish my mom would’ve thought like you, before having me. I am a severely disfigured person and I had no idea the vast numbers of severely disabled people out there in our world. So any parents having kids are taking an enormous gamble with their child’s physical and mental wellbeing. Health organizations make it seem as though the chances of serious birth defects are very small, and that if they occur, they could be helped with modern medicine. It’s all nonsense. Even in my own little community there are people everywhere with serious birth defects, and none can be helped with medicine. The world is not honest, when they try to tell you it’s safe to have kids.