Growing up i believed that if i didn’t have enough i could work harder
if i wasn’t smart enough i could work harder
if i wasn’t pretty enough …work harder
if i wasn’t talented, i just had to work harder
When i was younger i believed that if i work hard enough my effort would pay off, that makes sense. But this world isn’t about making sense, instead of being awarded for my effort i had to confront reality.
Working hard is tiring and all those who have intelligence, looks, and talent who never had to work as hard don’t know how it feels to try so hard and fail.
fail once
and then again
and then once more
until your to tired of trying to be what you can never be
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ever heard the phrase “work smarter, not harder”?
How about the concept of “failing gracefully?”
“Look before you leap.” (to evaluate your chances of success/failure, and the value of the consequences thereof)
You need to set realistic goals, and trying to be something you can’t be, isn’t one. You can become the best you you can become; but you cannot become something that would require you to be a person other than yourself.
Being the perfectionist that I am I feel the exact same way. I played the drums really well, made hats and scarfs really well. The effort that goes into it is greatly diminished when looking at people who are better than you. I no longer do any of my old hobbies because of my depression and lack of interest. I know I can’t hold my self to another persons standards and I feel it’s just learning self acceptance.