Is it a gift

I had a friend since first grade. Her brother is a year older than us. He was picked on and teased mercilessly throughout elementary school. I’ve always had a gut feeling he’s gay. Their parents are stoic, stern and very judgemental Germans. My friend told me about 10 years ago (in front of her husband) that she was shocked to find out all of her brother’s friends are gay. His university room mate, all of them. She was surprised, neither I nor her husband were. Her husband shot me a look that I took as “She has no clue about her brother.” He married a woman. He was working towards his Phd in some field like genetics, very intelligent man. His domineering parents *forced* him to give up school and work for the family business which he’ll someday take over. When I say forced, obviously he could have fought back, but he would have been exiled. Some people don’t have the strength to fight. Now he is unhappily married, unhappily employed, hurting this woman who thinks he’s straight and he’s miserable. It is so incredibly sad to me that he took the path of least resistance. I’m sorry to say I know of other men who are doing the same thing. I hate that movement; the “It gets better” movement. They’re lying to children.