I know what your thinking , I’m so young I have a life ahead of me. I don’t. My childhood was tossed between my divided parents who hurt each other by hurting me. My stepfather hit me , my mom told me she wished I had never been born. Then when I was 15 I moved in with my dad and his wife thinking that they wanted me me because they loved me , they just wanted to stop paying child support. I was alone I had a few friends , but then he came into my life, my boyfriend I had found a reason to live to make it. We where together for a year and two months then he woke up one day and found that he didn’t love me anymore. I gave this man my body , my heart, my soul. I was expecting his baby and I didn’t tell him, it didn’t matter I miscarried. He refuses to talk to me , I’ve decided that tonight I will die it’s not worth this pain anymore. It will be quick and I just wish I could have told him I love him one last time . Goodbye world goodbye heart goodbye my love
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You are young. You can find your true love still. I know what it’s like to be a teenager and have problems. It’s very tough. But your life can be AMAZING! I’m 27, and the last 10 years of my life have been wonderful, barring the last 10 months. Believe me, your 20’s are the best, and for many, the 30’s are even better. Then you get into family and career and whatnot. I hear it’s great.
If you do leave us, I wish you peace and happiness in the Great Beyond. And I hope that you do not suffer. But if you stay, you can find many to talk to on here, including myself.
I told him I didn’t want to live without him , he told everyone he didn’t care anymore
He’s not worth your suffering. There are decent guys out there, there really are. You do have something to live for, whether you believe it or not. There is still hope for you to find happiness. It would be a shame for you to leave this world without having had experienced real happiness. Life is hard, but love makes it bearable.And you CAN find love again. Real love. Not some immature jerk who leaves you and doesn’t look back. I hope that you can find happiness, and love, because you definitely deserve to.
He was the only thing I had left I lost everything
As much as it sucks that he turned into an insensitive jerk, there’s a silver lining. You can always find someone else. And with no guilt or regrets. You CAN move on. I’m sure that you have plenty to offer in a relationship, and if he couldn’t see that, it’s his loss. I had a similar situation as you, fell in love with a guy when I was 15, and things weren’t great, but I thought I was happy, then things went south when we were separated by a country. We didn’t survive the long distance thing, and he ended up cheating on me and then leaving me for another woman. He since married that woman, and has 2 kids.
I was super hurt and angry and thought my life was over, but I got through it, after a long, difficult year. I got through it and found the right guy. The one guy I was supposed to spend my life with. And I found that I was a million times happier with this new guy on our worst days, than I was with my ex on our best. Things work out the way they’re supposed to, with love, because not everyone that you date is going to love you. That’s just not how it works. But when you find that person who does love you, trust me, you’ll know, and you’ll be so ecstatically happy, you’ll forget you ever needed sites like this.
I’m not that young I’m almost 19 and he was the only person who loved me , I don’t want to date again ever
I would rather die alone
Almost 19 is VERY young.
Listen, this is what a lot of guys are like. They’re selfish and don’t know how to truly love. They look to women to satisfy their own needs, be they emotional, physical, financial, or whatever else have you. They don’t truly care, and you’ll find yourself quickly left to rot (as you found out the hard way) when you’re all “used up” and no longer satisfy them.
He’s a jerk. He never loved you, and you’ll find after you give it some time and do some healing, that you don’t love him either. It’s not natural to love someone who treated you the way he has. What you are experiencing now is deep pain associated with being hurt by him, and you are clinging onto your old feelings because it is less painful for you to delude yourself by doing that than accepting the reality of the situation.
It’s okay. It’s normal really, considering this is the first time this has happened to you.
Take it from someone who’s been there multiple times. It looks a lot different when you move far enough past it through the years and look back on it. You’ll just feel stupid for still feeling anything other than disgust or indifference to him. And trust me, he’s NOT worth killing yourself over.
Just remember that there are lots and lots of guys like him in the world that will do the exact same thing to you if you give them the chance. It’s just the nature of the beast. Don’t be naive about men, but don’t close yourself off to the chance to truly love someone in the future. Just please be more cautious next time.
If I can get through it, so can you.
It will probably hurt for quite awhile yet. You’ll be confused. You’ll start to cycle between different emotions. Anger. Sadness. Regret. You’ll feel like you weren’t “good enough” or that something is wrong with you. It’s not the truth.
I’m sorry that you’ve had a rough life. A lot of people have. You’re not alone.
Please don’t think of resorting to suicide. Just learn from this and move on.
Excellent responses. Nothing to add.
He was worth it and I really would rather die , I don’t even want to go outside my house
Why don’t you take a year. If you still feel like this then, then go for it. Your situation, while currently painful, is changeable. There is hope for you. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Keep your chin up, sweetie. Life is as good as you make it to be.
I’m ending it tonight
I told him I would die so I will
Just because you told him you’re going to kill yourself doesn’t mean you have to go through with it, suicide is a hard thing to achieve, the advise of wait a year and see how things turn out is good advise to me, even if you wait a few months you’ll know for sure if you want to kill yourself and it won’t be a kneejerk response but a considered decision.
It’s been months
Do you except the argument that you are still young at 19, that you have a lot of life experiences ahead of you, I’m 46. When my girlfriend left me who I believed was the right one and I was hoping I’d stay with for the rest of my life I felt like I wanted it all to end, it’s a point in time when we’re at are most vulnerable. May I ask how you intent to end it?
Bleach and vinegar and toilet bowl cleaner it makes toxic fumes
That may be the case but it may not be in the concentrations needed to succeed, it is very risky as brain damage is a real possibility, you probably know this, doesn’t it worry you that failure is often to outcome and the results to your health?
The way that you are feeling now is horrible, no doubt. But it is also TEMPORARY. You will not feel this same way forever, although you most likely believe otherwise.
The best advice that I can give you at this point is to find something else to divert your attention to. You are obsessing over him, and if you can direct your attention to a different matter it will significantly decrease the amount of time that you have to suffer over this.
Your mind is still very attached to him, so the key to ending your pain is to break that attachment, and you do that by shifting your focus onto something else. Find something that interests you and let your psyche latch onto that instead.
My personal topic of interest at the current moment is the tragic situation happening over in Syria and Iraq right now. A criminal terrorist organization by the name of ISIS and/or ISIL is attempting to take over the entire region. They have committed atrocious crimes against humanity and many nations in the world are on the brink of going to war with them. Although it is also a very negative topic, you might want to learn about it yourself. There are plenty of news articles about it online. It can really open your eyes by seeing the hardships that so many others face in the world, and help you come to terms with your own pain.
But that’s just a suggestion. If that doesn’t interest you, then find something else that does. Take up a hobby. Start an exercise routine. Take peaceful walks out in nature if you can (I know you said you don’t want to leave your house, but getting outside can really help). Find a subject that you’ve always been curious about and educate yourself as much as you can about it. Anything to get your mind off of him and onto something else.
I’m very worried about you, and will be happy to talk to you as much or as little as you want. Just please, please don’t try to kill yourself.
I know all about the news my lovers joining the Marines I stood by him through all of it , and if I fail I won’t care anymore
Do you acknowledge that you are young and that a lot of girls of your age go through break-ups like you but go on to live happy lives, get married and have children, I know you’re torn up now but you can see where we are coming from to help you, can’t you.
I don’t want to met anyone new , I gave him my heart
He hurt you, but he’s not worth giving your life to. He proved that already. He took your tears and he didn’t deserve those either. If you kill yourself for someone else, you’re essentially giving that person your life-force. I think you should make sure you give it to someone who deserves it. I wanted to kill myself many times over the years. Mostly when I was a teenager. I attempted it twice. Over things that seemed like a huge deal at the time, but having failed those 2 times, and growing up, I realized those “huge” things were really insignificant. If I had succeeded, I never would have known how amazing life could really be. I never would have met my amazing husband, and though I had him for but a short time, I couldn’t imagine a life where we hadn’t been together, even briefly. You really do have your whole life ahead of you.
I know it can be scary, and difficult to face, but it will get better, if you let it. If you give it time. You’ve been through a lot of emotional, and physical trauma. You just have to give yourself time to heal from it, and seek counseling for your grief. You’re grieving over him and your babies. I know things look really bleak, and you’re probably surrounded by darkness, but it doesn’t have to be permanent.
If you still decide you want to end it all, do it for yourself, not for him. He doesn’t deserve even that from you. You’re (I assume) healthy, and young, and from what I can tell, strong spirited, but damaged. You’re not broken, though you may feel like you are. Don’t end it because you’re suffering in this moment. That’s not enough of a reason to rob yourself of life’s pleasures.
My mother was married to my father for 18 years, and then he cheated on her and left her for another woman. She was devastated and I remember she pretty much drank for a whole year and listened to really sad country music. But she survived. She could have given up, and I wouldn’t have blamed her. I can’t imagine that kind of pain and betrayal. You were with this guy for a little over a year, you said. He’s certainly not worth taking your life. He’s scum, and didn’t deserve to have your affection in the first place.
You can find a decent guy who will treat you right. And you can find ppl to talk to to help you through all the grief. Find a support group, and talk about your problems with other people who are experiencing the same kind of stuff. Especially the miscarriage stuff. That is very difficult to get through on your own.
I hope that you will at least think about the things that we’ve said. Don’t react impulsively. What you’re proposing to do is a “permanent solution to a temporary problem”, as a counselor once told me. And it’s true, sweetie, this is only temporary. Your circumstances are entirely changeable. You’re in control of your own destiny, of your own life. And you can choose to make it great and make him feel like an idiot for not seeing how amazing you are, or you can end it, and he won’t give a hoot about you even after you’re gone.
Just think it over.
I know
I love him so so much , and I know I don’t matter but I’ll be at peace
I acknowledge that you’re love and devotion to him was great, you saw him as your future and maybe made plans with him but to die for him is an extreme measure, don’t you see this, suicide is the ultimate step you can take but, and also important is the risk of failure and that is great.
So I will be messed up I’m already messed up
Okay well that’s not a good topic for you then, but I’m sure that there’s something else in the world that can capture your interest.
And not getting involved with anyone else until you’ve healed is the best thing to do in this situation, so the fact that you don’t want to meet anyone new is a good thing. For now.
My first “love” (see how I use that word very loosely now, although at the time I certainly felt differently) took me three years to get over. He is married with children now, and I could honestly give a bigger fuck. Although I was, of course, devastated at the time when I learned he was engaged to another woman. My second failed relationship took me one year to get over. And my third and last failed relationship took me three months to get over.
I hope that you don’t ever have to go through this again. But do you see how much less my healing time was each new time it happened? My point is that your first bad break-up is usually the worst because it is the first time you’ve gone through this. It’s all new to you – and it’s awful. You gave everything you could to him, and he just left you like it was nothing. You’re in shock. You’re traumatized. And you’re in terrible pain. This is natural to feel this way after being betrayed by someone that you put all of your trust into.
But fact of the matter here is that your feelings were not returned to you in kind. He’s made it clear that he wants nothing to do with you, even though you are suffering so terribly because of HIS actions. He’s not man enough to be responsible for the pain he’s caused. And just that right there lets me know he’s certainly not worth taking your life over.
Listen to us older, wiser, more experienced people here who are trying to help you. We all KNOW how you are feeling right now. We’ve been there. And it does go away… in time.
I don’t want it to get better , I don’t want to date again I’m ready to die
Ok, you go into your confined space and mix your chemicals, the gas is released, it’s chlorine gas, you breathe it in, it’s a horrible gas to inhale, it’ll destroy your lungs and you’ll die of asphyxiation but it’ll take time but you suddenly change your mind and this does often happen at this time, please believe me, it’ll be too late and the harm is done to you, please don’t do it.
I would be at peace
But if you survive you’ll have serious medical problems, you constantly bat away any arguments we put to you, we are trying to help you, I don’t want you to suffer the pain you’ll have if you try this and you do have a future, it may not be the one you wanted but there’s no reason why it can’t be a good future, please don’t go this way and at this time.
There’s absolutely nothing that you would like to do with your life? No goals that you had? No dreams? That didn’t revolve around the jerk who broke your heart.. What about friends? Family? Can you HONESTLY say that you’d leave this world behind without ANY regrets?
Cuz I wanna die too, but I’d still have some regrets and mourn the death of my dreams and goals along with myself.
Don’t let this guy take your dreams and your future from you.
Why not there’s nothing for me here
But you DO want it to get better and you don’t want to die. At least part of you does. That is why you’re posting this on here and looking for help. And that’s a good thing.
Yes, part of you does want to die. Maybe a very big part of you does.
But part of you doesn’t.
Fact.
And even if that part of you that wants to live still is small, it’s still there. And it’s fighting to stay alive. And we’re here trying to help that part of you – not the part that wants to die.
That parts gone , I’m just waiting till I’m alone
How long has it been since he left you?
I’m sorry that we can’t seem to change your mind, to die for someone, he may be sad for a while or he may not but he’s still around to enjoy the rest of his life and you’ll be gone, what’s the point of that, take back your heart, declare yourself stronger for what has happened, move on and live your life, we all care for you and want the best for you which isn’t ending your life because of him.
I wish you wouldn’t, but if you do, I’ll pray that you find the peace you’re looking for. And that you get a chance at reincarnation, and that next time is better for you. <3
Three long months and I just want him to be happy
At last, you have stated something positive, we all want to be happy, I want to be EvilKitten no doubt wants it as do the others, you won’t get it by brooding over this guy, I’m sorry about what happened, we all need love and I’ve been on my own for years and years but I’m still hopeful so why can’t you.
I’m sorry I mis-read, why do you want him to be happy and killing yourself, will that help, it’s you that needs to be happy, you.
Oh come on. Three months is nothing. Just hang in there.
I know the pain seems unbearable, but I guarantee that if you go through with this it will be the biggest mistake that you’ve ever made in your entire life.
Being deeply heartbroken is torture. Trust me, I KNOW! But suicide is never the answer in a situation like this. Give it time. As much time is needed. It might take years, but so be it if that’s the case.
This will not go on forever, and one day you’ll be free of this. Free to move forward, let your past go, and have another chance at a totally different and much better life.
And fuck whether he’s happy or not. He doesn’t matter anymore, and the sooner that you realize that… the better.
I still love though , I would still do anything for him
You still love him, ok, you can’t turn your emotions off like turning off a tap but you need to know that you can love others, they’ll come along in the future but at the moment you’re fixated on someone who has left you, please think about waiting and seeing what happens.
Why so I can be hurt again
Well I can’t say you won’t be hurt again, it’s a part of life; as you say, you give you’re heart to someone and hope that your love will be returned, you will eventually find someone who will love you so much, they really will, please believe me, and when it does happen it’ll make you so happy, keep going with this belief, it will happen.
It hurts me deeply but I guess he could change or I could find someone new
It hurt me so much when my love left me and I still remember it, she left me by phone because she couldn’t face me and I sat on the floor in tears and felt my world had collapsed in on me, nothing would be the same again and it wasn’t for some time, a long time but I did start to date again and have relationships and be in love but I’ll be honest because you deserve that, I’m still looking for someone who I can be with for good, but I will continue to look and I’m sure I will find the right person, I’m hoping to ask someone very soon but what the outcome will be, who knows and looking back the girl I loved and still talk to wasn’t right for me but I didn’t see it at the time, who knows what the future holds for you but you will find someone and I’m sure of that.
Glad to hear that you’re finally starting to make some sense. I hope you get to feeling better soon. Please go put the bleach, vinegar, and toilet bowl cleaner back to their appropriate places and use them only as directed on the bottle. = )