That’s what he said to me this morning when he broke up with me. We had been talking/dating for a few weeks and it was damn near perfect. I still had my moment but of course he didn’t know that. We had such a good night a nice long walk in the park a good meal and he took me to see the movie of my choice. We rented a room and we just hung out for the most part, but of course we did the deed. I was so happy and he seemed the same way, but when I woke up this morning I got the news. He said we needed to talk and he proceeded to break up with me. He told me that I smell bad that he couldn’t stand being around me…. that I make him gag…. He said we couldn’t be friends because it would be awkward. I know for a fact I have good hygiene habits and that I do not smell but he said that to me anyway. I told him to man up and tell me the real reason he wanted to break up, but he said that was it and poof he was gone. How exactly am I suppose to deal with this?
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I can tell you that you deserve far better than that scumbag, but when we hurt so badly it’s likely we won’t believe it. Regardless however that is the truth.
I don’t know what his “objective” was in creating such a pleasant environment just to turn it suddenly into a grotesque nightmare. But it seems like a cowardly thing to do.
The most important thing you can do is remember you need to first love yourself and second, to know that no matter how important he might have seemed to be to you he is much too selfish and cold hearted for you. For anyone really. Please know that there is someone out there that will love and respect you. And maybe you are at a place where you need some time alone to work things out.
Allow yourself to grieve and then you can move on. Painful as it is, this guy isn’t worth getting twisted up over. You are worthy of the love you need and valuable – far more then he was.
– peace
I totally agree with what Nozmoking said.
Guys like this are the ones who truly deserve to be alone. I hate to be the one to say it, but sounds like he may have used you. Regardless I know how devastated you had to be. And noz is right, this guy is a scumbag to do something so rotten. I’m proud of you though for confronting him to try and find out the truth. I hope he meets UncleBuck one of these days. (it’s a movie) Anyways I’m here if you need to talk. (friendly hug) Don’t worry, one day you’ll find the right guy who cares more about getting to know you and falling in love with you, than being a player. (getting laid)
He didn’t start out that way. He was a nice guy and he really did seem to care about me. Last night was such a good night he didn’t act any different towards me after we left he called me cute and said he was happy. Then suddenly I get the message. If i take anymore showers I wont have any skin left.
He sounds like screwed up lowlife…it’s often the case than when a guy has sex with a girl he loses interests and moves on to someone else. But that’s a pretty vulgar way to end things…you should’ve said something similar and give him a complex.
But you don’t really know what’s in someone’s mind. A close relative of mine is a total idiot-she’s the kind of person who’d meet someone at a bar and invite them over for drinks-never thinking they could turn out to be a psychopath. One time she invited some guy over (only as friends, she’s married) and she had bought a bottle of wine (her husband was sleeping in the next room), she stepped away for a short bit and that guy left and took the wine with him.
I’ve warned her many times not to do stupid shit like this but she doesn’t listen. Only after did she realize what kind of danger she put herself in. Granted in your case you got to know the guy but there are some very strange people out there.
Bottom line, if you’re clean/hygienic, then clearly the problem is with him. Who knows what could set someone off. Sometimes I’ve found myself offended by a certain comment and held it against that person but I’m not an asshole and normally don’t try to get them back unless I know they were intentionally out to insult or degrade me. Anyways in this case, I’d recommend moving on and finding someone better.
Everyone says hes a jerk and a low life or what have you, but I just don’t understand. I got to know him and I liked him he was always honest with me, With that being said I know I am clean i can’t stand bad hygiene, which he knew. I just i want more time… I wish last night never ended
Seems to me he was just being an ass and wanted to turn you off to him real quick, because he lost interest.
That’s the trouble, you end up with someone thinking they could be the love of your life while they’re thinking of banging you and moving on to the next person.
I think we all make that call, some people we see as nothing more than a fling and others we want something more serious-it’s all about finding someone who’s on the same wavelength.
That is the reason I liked him so much and fell so fast…. we were on the same wavelength about most everything. He talked about wanting a family and being married and it excited me to know he thought that way. I told him I would never hurt him and he made me happy. That was the last thing I said to him last night.
He was feeding you a bunch of lines to get you into bed…sorry that was his gameplan. Many guys do this.
could be… and the odds are that he has his own bag of disorder(s) that he is dealing with. Feel sorry for a man that can be so callouse and cold. You are lucky because you love. He can not not be with himself all the time, my guess is that is hard. It is a blessing that you found out about him so soon because you caught some skin but he was not able to fully amputate your heart. You point out that what he says about you are untrue so realize this is HIM not you. Please, guard above all else your heart. It is the greatest gift you can give to someone and I hope you find someone deserving of it and someone that will treasure the love you give.
Seems to me like he got what he wanted and then didnt need you anymore. Some guys are like that. They date girls until they get sex and then they drop them and move on to the next girl. They’re deathly afraid of commitment and can’t imagine how monogamous guys can be happy sleeping with the same chick day in and day out.
Don’t let him get to you. There are many guys out there like him, but many more that actually want to be in a relationship and be with someone. Just learn from this experience, but don’t let it scare you away from dating and trying again with another guy.
That would make since , but that wasn’t the first time we slept together…
Oh, I’m sorry. I misread your post. Still, he may be this type of guy anyhow.
Regardless, he’s not worth your time, or your sadness. You deserve better than that.
Could it be he’s just afraid of commitment then? How old is he if you don’t mind me asking?
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Breaking up via text message or fax seems better than being told it’s over because you smell bad. That’s not a nice thing to say to someone. “I’m breaking up with you because you smell putrid”.
Hmm. I can’t help but think that tact isn’t his strong suit.
Wow. New England just scored again. 14-0 if the kick is good.
Try wiping your ass a little better. 🙂
excuse me?
Try wiping your mouth a little better 🙂
You are being rather rude.
That was for PeelASquid Mortuaychic not you.
We’re all adults here, right?
True story: I was f*cking a chick doggy style once and I TOTALLY smelled her bung hole while we were doing it. That smell killed it for me. The smell of raw ass completely killed my libido and I never talked to her again afterwards. Maybe I’m shallow. Idk. But certain smells do kill the mood.
that I understand but I’m saying bad hygiene freaks me out. If i had any reason to suspect anything like an odor I would have told him no.
@mortuarychic; You seem like a nice person. The guy in this story could have handled the situation differently. He was not diplomatic regarding the break-up. I’m simply trying to understand the situation from an alternate point of view. No offense meant. Feel free to delete my comments if I was out of line. 🙂 (You’re not “the guilty party” here according to your version of how things went down).
New England is up 14-3 with 3 minutes and change remaining in the first half.
Ok, here it is, I’ll tell you what really happened here,,,, coz I’m a guy and I will tell you the truth.
He dumped you coz he saw you as a slut.
You gave it up too easy.
He put you to a challenge and you showed him that you were easy, which ( to a better guy) is a big TURNOFF.
Unless you had some definite signs this guy was your soul mate or something, you were just another piece of ass to him.
So you should learn this lesson…..
Next time you find a guy you like, keep your pants on. Guys with a standard don’t want easy women. No doubt he was thinking how you would be easy for someone else and that he saw you lack self respect.
(Im just saying it like it is).
That’s absolute rubbish.
No, it is not.
I have more respect for a woman who won’t give it up so easy, so do all guys with a higher standard and are seriously looking for a quality female.
Just because YOU have respect for women with a so called higher standard doesn’t mean that is the fact of life. YOUR opinion of a HIGHER STANDARD is merely YOUR opinion and is not a fact of life.
Absolute rubbish post.
calling me names is uncalled for.
I didn’t call you anything. Im just telling you things from a guys point of view.
Well, I dont know how old you are, but im only 14.
All I can tell you is that im that young, and I know that he is an asshole.
You deserve better, well anyone deserves to be treated better than that.
I dont know you personally, and I dont know if you really loved this guy, but he seems like an ass, and im so sorry. I suggest trying my favorite 3 things: a warm balnket, green tea, and the song skinny love on replay because your beautiful and no one can tell yoi different. If you want to cry, cry. Because once your done crying, youll look and the mirror and think: wow. I really just did that. I dont care how pathetic it was, but im the bigger perosn here, and my ex is an ass. Now go live your life and be happy, because you can be. Some.people cant because the pain is so extensive like my situation. I hope you get everything you want. XOXO
i appreciate your point of view as I do everyone”s, but I can also say I am not easy and I don’t sleep with guys randomly or what not.
Look it doesn’t matter if you slept with him or not. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with someone…so what!?! I thought we were past this morale dilemma about sex. Why is a one night stand, or a few nights stand, such a big deal. In the end it’s what HE did/say not what YOU did/say…simple.
There is no easy or hard. It’s YOUR choice. If you want to sleep with someone then it’s not up for date about your morality or who you are as a person.
It’s clear to me a certain member has issues with women and is taking it out on you which is unfortunate because you seem like a nice person who is going through a tough time, you should be supported not abused.
3 weeks,,,
already in bed,,,,
to him you were EASY.
I never said 3 weeks, so check on that. and also there is no magical time to sleep with someone that’s such a cliche.
We had been talking/dating for a few weeks and it was damn near perfect. <——a few weeks….
a few doesn’t mean 3 sweetie but thanks for making me feel worse
@mortuarychic; This world we live in is full of idiots who aren’t worth listening to. Sometimes, a brain dead religious idiot who knows what’s best for everyone else will find his/her way onto this site. You can’t take these people seriously. They’re simply spewing their opinions and acting as if they’re imparting facts. They’re not. You’d learn more by reading shit stains on toilet paper than reading anything they write.
You know how retards never know they’re retarded, they’re just happy, oblivious, ignorant and content? The religious, zealot know-it-alls are the same. They believe that if only everyone else behaved according to their warped sense of “morality” then everything would be ok. You can’t take these people seriously. They’re idiots who don’t know that they’re brainwashed, judgmental know-nothings regurgitating what they’ve been indoctrinated into believing. They’re lost souls.
Don’t let the idiots adversely impact you.
When you see men say a woman is ‘easy’ there’s a sense of the inner misogynist coming out in them. I don’t believe that there should be a time frame on sleeping with someone. Sex is beautiful and when you have sex with someone it can bring a greater connection between two people.
To me it sounds like the guy was too gutless to admit his own feelings so instead sought out to hurt yours. I have seen this behaviour before, it’s low behaviour. If he was really concerned about your hygiene it is something that can be discussed or even hinted at subtlety.
I don’t deny that perhaps this person did use you (if that is even what went on) but under no circumstance does that make you so called ‘easy’ or a bad person at all. A woman should not have to change who SHE is just because there are arsehole men out there that are simply looking to use them. Don’t listen to this bullshit about you have a low standard or you are easy.
Not my intention, just giving you insight so hopefully you learned from it and you will keep your pants on the next time around.
Moral of the story,,,,,
Have some self respect.
Better guys look for that.
I do have Self respect. Thank you.
having sex doesn’t make a person have any less self respect.
“Girls who have sex are shameful sluts” ~ dumbass religious person who has a new girl riend like every other week that he pathetically posts about on SP
Girls who are easy are sluts.
what the heck kind of logic is that?
And ppl who are judgmental are ratbags.
Why just girls? What about guys? Surely your misguided logic applies to both genders?
Why is PeelASquid even still allowed to go around abusing a member of this website?
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No methods. No partners. No hate.”
“Please be kind.”
its simple.
A quality girl will save herself for that special guy, and that takes time to determine, not just a few weeks.
its simple.
A quality girl will save herself for that special guy, and that takes time to determine, not just a few weeks.
So what is it if a guy has sex after a fee weeks dude?
a double standard
Well that’s it – if fuck a guy after a few weeks is he a slut and not me? Does it just apply to the passive partner?
Well that’s it – if nail a guy after a few weeks is he a slut and not me? Does it just apply to the passive partner?
You got your view of the world PeelASquid but that doesn’t mean we have to buy it. Casual sex happens and it can be a wonderful experience…so what. Last time I checked it was 2014 not 1950. Funny how your blaming the victim here and not the perpetrator.
Can a moderator just ban this dickhead already?
I hear that
he is entitled to his own opinion of course…
Not at the expense of one of the rules of the website “No Hate”
agreed. I was taking it with a grain of salt because he does not know me or the whole story just my side
Everyone is entitled to “an informed opinion”. Nobody is “entitled” to be stupid.
C’mon you guys. There are plenty of idiots on the internet. Some of them find their way to this site. Don’t feed the troll. He’s unhappy because his wife is gone and he hasn’t found a replacement to change his diaper. Let’s be nice. 🙂
Any ass can fart an opinion. Constructive advice? Nah. It’s not constructive criticism either. We all know the squid man is spewing BS.
Quoting Kontinkatink: “Casual sex happens — so what”, exactly. So what.
Don’t let a stranger (or your ex) bring you down, @mortuarychic. Of course you have self respect. Use that to further empower yourself.
I guess it’s reasonable to expect a riot to break out here now and then – it shows that people are awake at least.
The “discussion” regarding men not respecting “easy” women struck a nerve. In my opinion, and it is just that – my opinion, it’s not how long someone keeps their pants on but why. To me it is simply the priorities and the order of things that truly matters. What I mean is, for me it’s the love, respect and joining of hearts and souls that happens first and then the physical joining happens as a natural and logical result.
They say that when someone starts abusing substances like drugs or alcohol at an early age they stop maturing at that point – I feel the same way about relationships. If the relationship starts with sex then that defines that relationship moving forward. It becomes the foundation and takes focus away from all the other things that are moere important during the other 99% of the time two people spend together.
When two people love and respect each other and desire spending time together because they fit well and compliment each other, the natural result is the delight in connecting physically. I know it sounds idealistic and “un-progressive” but I’ve been around the block a few times and fucking for fucking’s sake means that is as deep as the relationship ever goes. And all it takes is one time when shit goes wrong and then somebody walks away because there’s no investment in the other person.
That sounded good in my head – maybe I should have left it there…
Anyway, please keep the yelling down. I’m trying to sleep.