I guess I don’t really know why I don’t have any friends, because I’ve told myself the same thing over and over again so that I believe that, instead of what’s probably true. I never tried to figure it out because it would be pointless, as I couldn’t talk to anyone about it. I started posting here simply so that I could finally say what I needed to. I’ve always told myself I don’t want friends. I do. It hurts to admit it, but I do. I used to have friends, but for the past few months, I just stopped. I didn’t want my problems to be a bother to anyone like it used to be. Confiding in them always brought them a degree of anguish, as would anyone. It’s also easier to kill yourself when you’re alone and friendless, in my opinion. I guess it’s not just that either. Even when I had friends, I always felt like a third wheel, like I never fit in, like it was an inconvenience to have me there. It’s not that my friends were mean, they truly are amazing people, I just don’t fit in with anyone. i would rather be eating ice cream and watching Doctor Who on a Saturday night instead of going out because I have no friends, rather than eating ice cream and watching Doctor Who on a Saturday night instead of going out because my friends don’t want me along. I can’t ever trust anyone. Anything I tell anyone gets passed on to someone else. Yes, it does hurt to be friendless, but I guess I prefer it to before…
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A book to read…. How to win friends and influence people. Dale carnegie
The key here is to be your own best friend. Laugh at who you are and others around you. Love yourself, well try!! and screw everybody else. I too am the same.. im a aquare peg in a round hole. I dont like to force any relationships with anyone if they slot in they slot in… if you dont trust anyone then talk about it to them…. ask them how they view trust and how important it is to them.
I mean, or this is another way to look at it if you dont always like to be lonely…. be your own best friend… help yourself out and just listen to others… have people confide in you… doesnt mean they have to know anything about you, and everybody loves a good listener.
You say (and I quote 11 here) that like its a bad thing, but honestly, it’s the best thing there is!
Friends, lovers whatever, just make damn sure they are good ones. It’ll only make matters worse if they’re are abusers and when you’re down they’ll happily present themselves. I’m pathetic at picking real, genuine and good people…just totally shit at it. I trust too much. Anyway, make sure they’re damn good ok and at the first sign they may be abusive…LEAVE.
I understand what it’s like to have no friends. A couple of years ago, I pushed everyone away. I changed my phone number, wiped my Facebook, and did everything to isolated myself. There was no trust. It caused some problems for me down the road. To this day, there are some leftover effects… I interact with not many people.
If I could do it all over again, I’d trust people a little more. Sometimes people will burn you. That happens. You learn the first time and then you prevent it from happening again. As for how you spend a Saturday night, maybe it’s balance? You don’t have to go out every weekend. But maybe going out a weekend here or there will be helpful?
I dont have any friends either