Family & Friends EffectsGeneral How many of you… by Sabi 12/2/2014 written by Sabi 12/2/2014 …never knew/barely knew your extended family? How many only children here? Raise your hands, friends. (Misery loves company, right?) childrenfamilyMiseryright 11 comments 0 Email Related posts What good is knowledge when you can’t use... 10/1/2023 UBI and Depression 10/1/2023 Dumb Affirmations 10/1/2023 I Wonder If I Should Burn That Shirt 10/1/2023 I’m looking out for me 9/30/2023 Mediocrity 9/30/2023 I don’t fit, I can’t fit 9/29/2023 I’ll be honest I can’t stand being Trans... 9/29/2023 Life is Worth Saving 9/28/2023 Life is Worth Losing 9/28/2023 11 comments whyyyy 12/2/2014 - 4:09 pm I dont fit any of those but hell I suicide anyway soon prolly. Log in to Reply Sabi 12/2/2014 - 7:55 pm I was goofing around a bit with this post (though honestly curious how many people like me I’d find), so I’m glad anyone responded really. I hope you’ll consider giving yourself the best chance possible at life before deciding to take your exit. Log in to Reply genesis0987 12/2/2014 - 5:19 pm Only child, bearly know my family. I couldn’t care less about them though tbh. Log in to Reply Sabi 12/2/2014 - 7:57 pm Fair enough. I think knowing my extended family would have been helpful, growing up. From brief moments speaking or hearing about them, it sounds like they were all probably a lot more functional than my family of origin was… Log in to Reply queenofdarkness 12/4/2014 - 11:31 pm You’d be surprised what the most “functional” people are hiding under the surface. I’ve seen so many families where things seem to be going fine but on the inside there’s betrayals, abuse, resentment etc Log in to Reply Sofie 12/2/2014 - 5:30 pm My dad’s family is unknown to me, except for my one cousin. My mom’s side of the family are really, really mean spirited and I avoid them like the plague. I’m not an only child though, but oddly enough, I’ve been feeling extremely lonely lately. Log in to Reply Sabi 12/2/2014 - 8:05 pm Wow, that’s unfortunate (about the mean-spirited ones). It might just be me on here who feels this way but I think not having extended family can feel very isolating. To describe what I mean, it’s almost like your experience as a member of society feels less valid. It wasn’t that hard to find people who didn’t have siblings when I was growing up, but people who didn’t at least have reasonably regular contact with grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc? I don’t remember meeting an other such people in person… Log in to Reply Sofie 12/2/2014 - 8:35 pm I can’t tell you how to feel, but I can give you my perspective on the subject. Please wish to have a *loving* extended family, or get involved with other people’s family so much so that they adopt you into the group. Like, I had a friend who’s mother said I was her daughter. Just because someone has family doesn’t mean they love them, or that they will treat them as a family member. Trust me, I feel pushed toward my own demise because of my family. 🙁 How much of a failure I am. Yea, I wish I had a loving extended, supportive, kind family. Log in to Reply Sabi 12/3/2014 - 12:18 pm There was a family with three kids and wonderful friendly parents that I knew growing up, who kind of ended up being my model of what a family *should* be like. I could go by their house whenever and stuff. But when they had cousins or grandparents or whatever visiting I suddenly felt out of the loop haha. These weren’t people I heard about all the time (though I do recall one name of somebody they complained about a lot, and the face of another that was a favourite of theirs), and all of a sudden (at the time), I realized I was unwittingly imagining myself as someone closer to them than I probably had a right to be, and they surely deserved some space to be who they needed to be with their real family. Even the most strained relationships they had seemed like something almost sacred, when I think back now on how I felt about it then. Any other families I got to know were through past significant others I’m no longer with. It’s nice to remember I’m still on good terms with all of these people and they helped inform me on what I was missing out on at “home” but obviously that’s been a double-edged sword. Log in to Reply queenofdarkness 12/4/2014 - 11:29 pm It’s better to not know your extended family than to know them and not have a good relationship with them. (which is my situation) Log in to Reply Sabi 12/13/2014 - 10:35 am If you never have the option to cut them off, maybe. Not sure what the point of you saying that here is, though. Better to put it in a different post, don’t you think? Log in to Reply Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment.Subscribe to comments: Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.