How does one figure out who they are without their sadness? Is it the mask I put on even when I am sad? Because I’ve been wearing that mask so often that I feel it is who I’ve become now…like the mask is somehow etched into my life permanently that it becomes a knee-jerk reaction to how I act around people…
How do I know who I am without my sadness, when I haven’t had a time I can remember that wasn’t without sadness?
Please help…I’ve been trying to figure this one out for weeks…
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I don’t know how to, but I share the same feeling, for once im actually getting help, but I’m unbelievable scared of well who I’ll be after, as you said, it’s like become a part of me so losing it will make me not know who I am
I don’t have answers but I am willing listen if you need to talk.
Who you are without your sadness might be the same person you are without your anger, happy, hate, fear, jealousy, sorrow, or any other emotions. Sometimes I get stuck on one of these emotions and it becomes the face I show the world. For me, right now, my face is quiet contemplative isolation or fear of criticism. Maybe next week I’ll change it cause I’m getting bored. The trick is to find a way beneath all the many faces. That is what some call your “true nature”. Hard work…maybe even years of hard work to get to the place where you can wear all the many faces but know deep inside that you’re only wearing faces and the faces aren’t who you are.
Perhaps it’s too soon to try and figure out who you truly are. Many emotionally healthy people don’t even have the answer to this, and I don’t think it’s something you can figure out so quickly. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to figure it out. It’s okay if you don’t know a week from now, a month, a year, beyond a year.
Thanks for your comments…I just feel trapped in a glass box right now. Being able to see the world and yet I can’t join it. Frustrating doesn’t even begin to cover it…Thank you 🙂
just be who you are. if i was instantly cured i wouldn’t waste time trying to figure it out. i’d live life. i suggest you do the same… i know the feel of seeing life but unable to participate. its a killer