3 months ago my fiance and I got into a fight and he pushed me. We had been together 9 years and nothing like this had ever happened before. We have a son together and he is truly the love of my life. I was freaked out when he pushed me and called my mother to come get us. This was the biggest mistake I could have made. The next morning I woke up in my mothers house still upset from the fight. She was being very pushy with me and ended up calling an expensive lawyer and the police without my consent. She embellished what happened to me and threatened me to go along with the story or she would kick my son and I out. This resulted in a no contact order between my now ex fiance and months of legal court shit that is still going on. I never wanted any of this to happen. Now my ex is being charged with assault and will lose his job and the house we bought. He may even go to jail. I told my mother I hate what she made me do so she kicked my son and I out. Because of the no contact order I cant even go home. So now I am a single mother living in a slum on welfare. I cant afford to feed my son or buy him clothes or toys. I was a stay at home mom for 4 years so I have nothing. I dont have the will to go on. I cant pretend anymore. I just want my family back together. I dont want to be a single mother at all. If I had known any of this was going to happen I would have never had a child. He is the only thing thats been keeping me going but the thoughts of our bleak future make me feel like ending it.
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Violence is not OK, so ending the relationship with this man was probably for the best. As for him going to jail, that’s a bit much unless he did actual physical damage to you. People often ‘assault’ each other but it generally doesn’t result in the consequences you described unless it was very serious.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling to survive. I hope you’ll manage to get through this. Can you try applying for part-time jobs?
P.S. It’s not your fault if he’s going to jail, of course – the blame is fully on him for exerting violent measures in the first place.
I don’t know how bad was the fight you were having or if violence was starting to become more common, but if it was a one time thing that was just blown out of proportion (it sounds like that in your description) maybe it was just a mistake on your ex fiance’s part. We all make mistakes, like what your mother did, which was IMHO a huge overreaction.
If you can you should drop the restraining order on your ex, no sense on keeping it at this point. Also, he must know how your mother is, so he might be able to understand the situation and help you out a bit (even if it’s only for your son) while you get back on your feet, and that might in turn avoid him getting fired. That’s the best i can think of at the moment (sorry if it isn’t of much help), best of luck.