You might have thought that this post would be a motivational speech with a dash of positive psychology because of the title but sorry to disappoint, this is actually a rant.
So – I saw a screenshot of a Tumblr post on facebook where an anonymous user asked ‘What happens after I committed suicide’ or sth close to that. Then the person that was asked said things like: ‘You wanna know what will happen […] your mother will be heartbroken […] your father will be devastated to the point of speechlessness […] your younger sister will lost the person she looked up to—‘ You get the point.
First of all, I’m not saying this is wrong because some people actually commented that it gave them hope. Just — when I saw this post, I laughed. Literally LOL-ed. He/She should have been careful in answering something like this.
I don’t know if the person who answered ever experienced the crippling feeling of depression or the black-hole like emptiness inside or she just typed that with his/her elbows and deemed it motivating and amazing for a post.
So what exactly is my problem?
THE PERSON FORGOT THAT EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT for fudge’s sake.
• The person who asked may already have lost his/her parents, an only child and has no friends. What now?
• The main purpose of the post, for me, was to actually make you feel guilty to what you’ll do to others if you went ahead and kill yourself. Although, to others this may seem like a much needed proof that people cared for them.
• You’re telling them to live and continue living for others. Do you know how fucked up that is? Do you know how hard and sad it is to depend for others as your main reason for living? That won’t roll in the long run and may cause some deeper hurt. I’m not saying to be selfish and be alone but LIVE FOR YOURSELF. It’s okay to fight for your life because of your family but don’t make it the sun of your existential orbit. Please don’t.
• He/She sounded so haughty. Or I may just be imagining it. Anyway, some people may appreciate your straightforward-no-BS type of answering but some won’t and that is scary.
• Why’d she publicized it? I don’t know how exactly tumblr works but isn’t there a way to answer that in private messaging? Wtf crawled in your brain to make it a public post like your everyday fanart or movie/book quotes or whatever you post on your tumblr.
Last but not the least, she shouldn’t have answered that at all with all the air of someone that you should listen to. Suicide is a very sensitive topic and it should not be taken lightly just because you thought you have the right answer.
– I don’t even know if that’s a real post or not but you get the point and also, this is for future reference for those who get asked by people suffering from depression and/or thinking about suicide.
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I actually saw the same post on facebook.
Yes, it was a post trying to guilt you from doing it, it seemed.
I thought it was a bit too silly but not only because they forgot how hard depression is and how tough it is to actually deal with having thoughts of suicide, also because they tried to make it seem like the whole world around you will never be the same again.
They exgatterated, with the siblings parts and the best friend parts, people at school parts. Tried too hard in my opinion. Especially with all the extra details.
Most people (who struggle with these things) don’t have really really close friends or that much impact on people they know, who will be effected so badly as to never having their life the same again.
I think the mother/dad part was pretty okay..ish (for .. some cases), but overall they tried too hard there, and yes, it was mostly just trying to guilt people.
But tumblr has some crazies as far as i’ve heard, and a lot of ridiculous posts, but i don’t go there so i wouldn’t know for sure.