Human Kindness

People who put others down and/or who treat them unfairly aren’t happy. They are miserable and since it is difficult to control one’s emotions, their bad moods spill out into their interactions with others. Even people who believe they enjoy causing others pain – why? Because deep down they have a lot of emotional pain they’ve never dealt with, and it ended up turning them into what others might think of as a monster. Maybe they seemingly get pleasure from what they do, but it’s only because their issues made them develop mental illnesses.

It’s hard to have compassion for the truly evil individuals out there, but most human beings are neither good nor evil, they’re just struggling to make it through each day. Some have naturally calmer and kinder personalities and some are tense, nervous, and easily irritated, so it’s easy to see who’s going to end up being called an “asshole”.

If people keep calling you an asshole without explaining what you did that was so asshole-like, you might not quite understand and might not get a chance to try to change. Or you might just accept that label and keep doing whatever it is you do, not caring who you piss off in the process, and say to everyone with a shrug, “Yeah, I’m an asshole. So what.”

Anyway, my point here is to not always assume the worst about others’ behavior, because they might be having a really bad day and didn’t mean to snap at you and regretted it soon after, or they might honestly have no clue as to why you are angry with them, and why you found their behavior selfish or unkind – because no one else may have ever complained to them in similar situations.

Try to be honest about how they affected you, without nagging, being cruel, judgmental, or jumping to negative conclusions.
(I want to take my own advice from now on too, heh.)