Another way of saying that is everything is a matter of perspective…
I don’t get why there’s so much focus on love being caused by chemicals, EVERYTHING you feel is caused by chemicals, why would love be different? That doesn’t make the experience of the chemicals a less real event for the ones involved. I’ve long subscribed to the “lust at first sight” school of thought but that doesn’t make companionate love any less real or that relationships can’t last.
Couldn’t agree and disagree more. Great article for starting arguments! Not so good for finishing them.
Shallow people need other shallow people. We all start off shallow. Where you take it from there is ultimately up to you – even with funny brain chemicals fighting you every step of the way.
The pain of failed shallow relationships are a great motivator to reward yourself with relationships that are deeper and more nuanced. Enough electric shocks and you’ll learn the right path to the cheese.
Thanks for posting. I have to show that one to my girlfriend with the droopy eye and the wooden leg. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever dated. *sigh*
Human nature fucking sucks. Love is nothing but a chemical that triggers you to reproduce offspring. Looks is pretty much everything to most people. I been studying this for along time. Not only by my own observation, but neurological studies.
when the “unloveables” are rejected and alone, they are subconsciously being banished from society so that they will die. When we are alone, we release the stress hormone Cortisol. This hormone is responsible for causing stress, diseases, lowering your immune system etc.
I think most of us on SP are just a different breed of human from the real insane majority.
people say ‘looks don’t matter’ just to be ‘kind’. Yet, we are reminded time and time again… that looks DO matter. (not just in the media either – Hey, if something bad happens to a ‘fat old ugly man’ I bet we won’t hear anything about it, unless that ‘fat old ugly man’ was a pedophile/rapist/murderer, but that would be him doing the bad thing. What if it was the other way around? Nope no mention.)
Humans are NOT civilized, we are not any different to lions out in the wild. Have you seen in wildlife TV shows … Other lions picking on the older male? Females fighting over the ‘strongest’ male with the ‘best genes’ out of all the lions in that area? Females ONLY choosing the ‘strongest lion with the best genes’?
Have you seen chickens pecking the heck out of ‘weaker, defenceless’ chickens? This happens to humans all the time!!! that’s the chickens gift for not fitting the mould of other chickens. Sorry if i sound ridiculous.
It is how you wish to perceive life that you will experience it…. Nah I know there’s a lot more variables involved. Personally I don’t often peer behind the curtain, I’m content with my mild illusions. But I can still get swept away by a sky full of stars or a sunset, and scientists will give you all sorts of reasons for why this and this and this happen. So what? It still has the potential to be beautiful, you just have to be open to it. And statements like ‘people can never be trusted’ aren’t true, there’s always exceptions. Wndozh8er I do agree with most of what you said but there’s always more than what you see, there’s still ‘unloveables’ who get loved I know it it’s not just something I WANT to believe in
I just think “There’s no God, science says love doesn’t exist, and people are horrible to each other…is humanity just a vicious and insane virus infecting the planet poisoning everything and destroying everything?”
technically, there’s nothing to prove/disprove the existence of god, scientists used to think that the universe revolved around the flat earth, and everything on the news about how horrible we are, and even first hand experiences of it? That’s not all the news there is, there’s still people trying to make things better. You gotta believe in something or you won’t make it, even if it’s something silly or ridiculous. Personally, I believe in mustachioed monocle’d top-hatted zebras, such a dashing look with those stripes…
I didn’t read this article but it’s not emotion or chemicals, it’s *logical* that human beings need other human beings. It’s difficult to survive without the support system that almost every person on the planet participates in (industrial, education, agriculture, politics, public services, et cetera). Forming bonds with others is a sensible thing to do because it’s not easy to be entirely alone. Plus, having friends or significant others is supposed to be fun (aside from when you argue, which is natural because no one will agree 100% of the time, and everyone makes mistakes as well, or gets on each other’s nerves at times). Healthy relationships/emotional support boosts a person’s morale and makes life easier to navigate.
Does “love” exist? Yes, but not in the fairytale sense, as it takes a lot of effort, understanding, and some compromise. Chemicals in the brain don’t bind people together; they might light the initial spark, but many other factors go into what keeps them united. (I think it’s up to each individual person to decide what “love” is for them.)
Most romantic relationships don’t last for decades, and that’s fine. But you can *decide* to treat your p.artner well (no one is perfect, but you can do your best), and hopefully you’ll be happy together as long as it lasts. (That’s the goal.)
I read most of it, but didn’t finish because it’s too depressing. It’s all quite true. I’ve felt confused about myself bit I guess I can’t escape my genetic code of being XX even if I’m a transguy. I have always wanted nothing more in life than to be loved and have my soulmate. I’ve been in love with a guy who will never be with me and it kills me when he posts his sappy shit on Facebook (or tells me personally) about being a ‘hopeless romantic’, feelingblonely, wanting someone, etc. when he is holding out for the perfect 10 little trophy girl to come along and love him the way I do. And I know he doesn’t just want one trophy girl, he wants a lot of them. He’s waiting for someone that doesn’t exist, because he expects a perfect 10 trophy girl under 100 pounds to not only love him but share his interests 100%, agree with him 100% on everything, and completely fill out a very long checkmark list of personality traits he is looking for. But I love him, and Ibe probably given him more and been better to him than he’s ever been treated in his life but I simply don’t count for shit and can only be kept at a distance as a friend. It kills me that he would fuck just about anyone, any girl as long as she’s skin and bones, if he had the chance. No, no one will love him like I do because I have the capacity to love that everyone else in this world doesn’t have. Now, back to that blog… To me, this guy is the alpha male, even though he sees himself very negatively and as much as it seems unbelievable to me, the rest of the world doesn’t see him as the alpha male god I think he is, because if they did, then skanks would be lined up around the block for him. I thought that happened to ALL tall men regardless of looks??? He’s tall AND beyond gorgeous!!!! People are blind bit it works in my favor a bit because as long as girls aren’t chasing him down, I get to see him and spend time with him, often alone which I prefer and like. But I’m the ugliest, most hideous person in the world and no one could ever want me and no one ever will. Being born female is a curse because you have to be a perfect 10 to get an ugly 0 of a male in your life.. Women have to all be a 10 to have any man 0-10 marry them. And then me, bein gnome the ugliest person on earth, I’m in love with a guy who is a 10 in my eyes. And I’m a -7billion 0 ugly, below everyone else on earth.
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Another way of saying that is everything is a matter of perspective…
I don’t get why there’s so much focus on love being caused by chemicals, EVERYTHING you feel is caused by chemicals, why would love be different? That doesn’t make the experience of the chemicals a less real event for the ones involved. I’ve long subscribed to the “lust at first sight” school of thought but that doesn’t make companionate love any less real or that relationships can’t last.
Hey! Handcuffs are mechanical, not chemical. That’s why my grandparents stayed together.
lol SeeSmith..
Couldn’t agree and disagree more. Great article for starting arguments! Not so good for finishing them.
Shallow people need other shallow people. We all start off shallow. Where you take it from there is ultimately up to you – even with funny brain chemicals fighting you every step of the way.
The pain of failed shallow relationships are a great motivator to reward yourself with relationships that are deeper and more nuanced. Enough electric shocks and you’ll learn the right path to the cheese.
Thanks for posting. I have to show that one to my girlfriend with the droopy eye and the wooden leg. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever dated. *sigh*
well said SeeSmith! ha handcuffs
It’s like everything “magical” about life is a lie and all that’s left is just cold and cruel.
people cannot be trusted. never
Human nature fucking sucks. Love is nothing but a chemical that triggers you to reproduce offspring. Looks is pretty much everything to most people. I been studying this for along time. Not only by my own observation, but neurological studies.
when the “unloveables” are rejected and alone, they are subconsciously being banished from society so that they will die. When we are alone, we release the stress hormone Cortisol. This hormone is responsible for causing stress, diseases, lowering your immune system etc.
I think most of us on SP are just a different breed of human from the real insane majority.
people say ‘looks don’t matter’ just to be ‘kind’. Yet, we are reminded time and time again… that looks DO matter. (not just in the media either – Hey, if something bad happens to a ‘fat old ugly man’ I bet we won’t hear anything about it, unless that ‘fat old ugly man’ was a pedophile/rapist/murderer, but that would be him doing the bad thing. What if it was the other way around? Nope no mention.)
Humans are NOT civilized, we are not any different to lions out in the wild. Have you seen in wildlife TV shows … Other lions picking on the older male? Females fighting over the ‘strongest’ male with the ‘best genes’ out of all the lions in that area? Females ONLY choosing the ‘strongest lion with the best genes’?
Have you seen chickens pecking the heck out of ‘weaker, defenceless’ chickens? This happens to humans all the time!!! that’s the chickens gift for not fitting the mould of other chickens. Sorry if i sound ridiculous.
I realized that humans don’t physically peck each other to death, hehehe
and that the ‘Ugly duckling’ has alot of truth in it and happens worldwide everyday to humans? (similar thing) – yeah i hate fairytales
It is how you wish to perceive life that you will experience it…. Nah I know there’s a lot more variables involved. Personally I don’t often peer behind the curtain, I’m content with my mild illusions. But I can still get swept away by a sky full of stars or a sunset, and scientists will give you all sorts of reasons for why this and this and this happen. So what? It still has the potential to be beautiful, you just have to be open to it. And statements like ‘people can never be trusted’ aren’t true, there’s always exceptions. Wndozh8er I do agree with most of what you said but there’s always more than what you see, there’s still ‘unloveables’ who get loved I know it it’s not just something I WANT to believe in
I just think “There’s no God, science says love doesn’t exist, and people are horrible to each other…is humanity just a vicious and insane virus infecting the planet poisoning everything and destroying everything?”
technically, there’s nothing to prove/disprove the existence of god, scientists used to think that the universe revolved around the flat earth, and everything on the news about how horrible we are, and even first hand experiences of it? That’s not all the news there is, there’s still people trying to make things better. You gotta believe in something or you won’t make it, even if it’s something silly or ridiculous. Personally, I believe in mustachioed monocle’d top-hatted zebras, such a dashing look with those stripes…
I once saw an inverse zebra.
I didn’t read this article but it’s not emotion or chemicals, it’s *logical* that human beings need other human beings. It’s difficult to survive without the support system that almost every person on the planet participates in (industrial, education, agriculture, politics, public services, et cetera). Forming bonds with others is a sensible thing to do because it’s not easy to be entirely alone. Plus, having friends or significant others is supposed to be fun (aside from when you argue, which is natural because no one will agree 100% of the time, and everyone makes mistakes as well, or gets on each other’s nerves at times). Healthy relationships/emotional support boosts a person’s morale and makes life easier to navigate.
Does “love” exist? Yes, but not in the fairytale sense, as it takes a lot of effort, understanding, and some compromise. Chemicals in the brain don’t bind people together; they might light the initial spark, but many other factors go into what keeps them united. (I think it’s up to each individual person to decide what “love” is for them.)
Most romantic relationships don’t last for decades, and that’s fine. But you can *decide* to treat your p.artner well (no one is perfect, but you can do your best), and hopefully you’ll be happy together as long as it lasts. (That’s the goal.)
I read most of it, but didn’t finish because it’s too depressing. It’s all quite true. I’ve felt confused about myself bit I guess I can’t escape my genetic code of being XX even if I’m a transguy. I have always wanted nothing more in life than to be loved and have my soulmate. I’ve been in love with a guy who will never be with me and it kills me when he posts his sappy shit on Facebook (or tells me personally) about being a ‘hopeless romantic’, feelingblonely, wanting someone, etc. when he is holding out for the perfect 10 little trophy girl to come along and love him the way I do. And I know he doesn’t just want one trophy girl, he wants a lot of them. He’s waiting for someone that doesn’t exist, because he expects a perfect 10 trophy girl under 100 pounds to not only love him but share his interests 100%, agree with him 100% on everything, and completely fill out a very long checkmark list of personality traits he is looking for. But I love him, and Ibe probably given him more and been better to him than he’s ever been treated in his life but I simply don’t count for shit and can only be kept at a distance as a friend. It kills me that he would fuck just about anyone, any girl as long as she’s skin and bones, if he had the chance. No, no one will love him like I do because I have the capacity to love that everyone else in this world doesn’t have. Now, back to that blog… To me, this guy is the alpha male, even though he sees himself very negatively and as much as it seems unbelievable to me, the rest of the world doesn’t see him as the alpha male god I think he is, because if they did, then skanks would be lined up around the block for him. I thought that happened to ALL tall men regardless of looks??? He’s tall AND beyond gorgeous!!!! People are blind bit it works in my favor a bit because as long as girls aren’t chasing him down, I get to see him and spend time with him, often alone which I prefer and like. But I’m the ugliest, most hideous person in the world and no one could ever want me and no one ever will. Being born female is a curse because you have to be a perfect 10 to get an ugly 0 of a male in your life.. Women have to all be a 10 to have any man 0-10 marry them. And then me, bein gnome the ugliest person on earth, I’m in love with a guy who is a 10 in my eyes. And I’m a -7billion 0 ugly, below everyone else on earth.