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by Within Evanescence

Today at school I overheard a conversation between a boy and a girl, and they were laughing about the fact that a lot of the girl’s family members are sick, so I already thought that was a little odd but I haven’t heard the whole story so I can’t judge. But then the boy asked the girl: “And was the lesbian your dad’s family member?!” ‘YES! Hahaha” “Omg!” And it made me so upset. I wanted to walk to my friend to talk to her about how it bothered me, but I don’t like to talk about my sexuality, so I kept it to myself. But it bothered me so much, and it still does, that people make suck a big deal of sexualities! What’s weird about being attracted to the same sex? Hearing them talk about it like that made me insecure about the fact that I might (not planning on doing so) come out to people some day. I don’t understand why people see sexualities other than being straight as such a weird thing… šŸ™

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Mark_1981 10/2/2015 - 1:54 pm

It’s an unfortunate misplaced stigma taught to people from a young age. When people are born they don’t know anything except what their instincts tell them (the baby crawl for example). At some point social networks start to form with formations being that of “likeness” to ones own self. Anything or anyone who is different or not understood can be a target of humiliation.

With the above said a lot that has to do with sexuality is taught or learnt from ones surroundings. It could be family as often the case, media, friends, etc. It is from these that values and perceptions develop. We asimulate.

in addition to the above people want to be accepted, no one wants to be left out. It is far easier to go with the crowd to be accepted than to buck it and face possible isolation. The worst is teenage years.

I’m not making any excuses for human behaviour. Human behaviour is juvenile at best regardless of age (exceptions apply). Sad but true.

Hang in there though.

Trix 10/2/2015 - 2:30 pm

There’s nothing weird or abnormal about it. It’s really common. People see it as more unusual than it is. I think some homophobic people have issues with their own sexuality and find it hard to accept that it isn’t black or white and there’s huge variety. But I think more than anything that when there’s something people see as slightly unusual (being a certain race in a certain place, being short, being tall, being gay – anything) they hang onto it as something to judge – because of their own insecurities in general. I think the motives are the same as bullying, even when it isn’t directed towards someone in particular. They want to feel better about themselves, and acting as though they’re superior to another group of people helps them do it without having to change anything.

I used to hate listening to things like that too, but I was too self-conscious to say anything. I wish now that I’d told them exactly what I thought.

Mark_1981 10/2/2015 - 3:23 pm

100% agreed. Homosexuality is extremely common and perfectly natural. Homosexuality has been recorded as far back as the biblical times, Ancient Greece & Rome and so on. Homosexuality exists in nature too with animals. I have personally heard of a homosexual bull who was unfortunately slated for slaughter as he was useless for breeding… he ended up being sent to a refuge farm. Humans and society in general needs to move on and just accept it as such… that it’s natural.

freeroma 10/2/2015 - 2:49 pm

I hate it when people consider being gay or transgendered as ‘unnatural’. It literally happens in Nature- bonobos are pretty wild carnally, and there’s a trans fish. People are just nuts, when you do come out you’re going to have to accept that narrow minded philistines will try to knock you down, and not let their ignorance ruin your life.

twotif 10/2/2015 - 5:56 pm

People fear and ridicule what they don’t understand. There’s nothing that you’ll ever be able to do about it.

Just know that school is not like life in the work force. Just finish your studies and get your swerve on when and where you can discreetly. The older you get, the better it gets.

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