A stranger approached me the other day. It was the early hours of the morning and my partner and I were standing outside a takeaway, waiting for our food.
The stanger tapped me on the shoulder, to get my attention and looked me right in the eye.
“You’re not right”, he said, after examining my face.
He spat at me while he quickly stormed off.
I’ve always thought I’ve been a little bit of an ‘outsider’ but my god, this changed me. Ever since, I’ve noticed people look at me the same way when I pass them in the street.
What do they see?
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Couldn’t say what people see in general when they look at you (probably just another normal looking person?), but guessing this guy was high/drunk/off his meds. Regardless, judging someone by their appearance and then spitting at them is not cool. Unless you think he was somehow able to see your soul and all the terrible things you’ve done in that instant.
I think it’s pretty common for sensitive people to react to random assaults by questioning what is wrong with them that made them a target, then assuming that everyone else sees them like that. Safe to say that 99% of the time, it’s not you, just someone else being a random asshole.
You’re probably right.
I’ve always been a sensitive person and I’ve never wanted anyone to think badly off me, so it hurts when stuff like this happens.
I guess I just need to pull myself together a little.
Thanks a lot. I didn’t expect to get any help from this post and you proved me wrong. I’ve spent too much time dwelling in my own thoughts and not enough time coming here for advise so I’ve become a little unstable.
I appreciate it.
You’re welcome 🙂
I know how hard it is not to take things like that personally. We need to remind ourselves occasionally that some people are just dicks for no good reason.
Sounds like some mentally ill piece of shit. Don’t take people like that seriously.
Don’t take it personally. I agree with thehusk – he was off his face in some way. I’m often the same, taking things personally when they really have nothing to do with me. A week or two ago a young man I know got stopped by some drunk guy trying to fight him. A couple of years ago a woman started pointing at me and chanting, ‘Jew,’ at me in the street. It might help to think how you’d feel if it had been directed at a friend of yours – you’d be much more likely to think the person insulting them was the one with something wrong with them.
That kind of behavior always strikes me as a challenge to out-weird them. Practice saying, “Come back! I want to love you like my dead hamster!” So next time you’ll be ready.
Well, it works for me.
Don’t take this personally. Sometimes people are hurting so bad that they want to take it out on some innocent soul such as yourself. You are not definable by what other people say- you are definable by who you truly are as a person, and although I don’t know you from the man on the moon, you seem like a very kind person who was just in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Lots o’ love, love 🙂
It is not good to assess things like this in a rational way when the actions were likely not coming from a rational place. This poor soul may have more problems than any of us can imagine and was simply responding to one of many voices from inside his own mind.
The majority of us here on this site have depression or anxiety and we probably do not act in a way that our family and friends can always relate to either. Simply being depressed makes us tend to look inward and focus blame on ourselves when we need to accept that what happens to us or around us is not always reflective of us personally.
How do you dress and look? Some people find it hard to accept someone say with shaved sides, a giant black mohawk and 40 piercings on their face lol