How do you tell your friends you are suicidal? And more important, should I tell them?
I don’t like to talk and I have difficulty to explain myself. Therefore I was thinking of send them a video about depression. But the video doesn’t talk about suicidal thoughts so I don’t know how to introduce the subject. Any advice?
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DON’T tell them. Seriously, don’t. See a professional instead.
I honestly wouldn’t tell them if I were you. Some people don’t know how to handle that kind of information and they’ll either over react or they’ll treat you differently. So, unless you want them to do something with this knowledge, I wouldn’t say anything to them
Tell them as gently as possible. Just say something like:
“Hey guys im suicidal. I’ve been this way for a while, and im sorry that i didnt tell you sooner.”
I say you should, it’ll help get help to get better.
Unless you don’t want help of course
Agree with the above opinions, you should only tell your family (if they don’t know already), but telling friends is just a recipe for losing them or making things awkward (unless you have really good friends, which only you can know). Do look for professional help tho (if you haven’t already), since that’s a lot more important than telling your friends… if things work out you might not have to tell them at all in the long run.
You are seeing a psychologist, right? Did you ever manage to tell them about the suicidal thoughts? If you need to reach out to your friends because you need help then I think you should. How to tell them is hard. You could send the video and add a message like ”I am in a really bad place and have been feeling like I can’t go on for a while and really need your help because I am scared.”
Maybe you can talk to a trained listener (text chat) on 7 cups of tea. They might have a good idea about telling your friends or it could be a bit of a practice to find the words you need.
Thank you for your opinions and advice.
I have really good friends. That’s why I’m considering tell them. I’m not seeing them as often so they have some time to handle the situation. I can’t tell my family I just can’t. If I speak to someone is to my friends or my psychologist. But I also didn’t talk to my psychologist although I’m trying.
I get it Blackdog, I’d never trust my batshit crazy family with that kind of sensitive information. They are a bunch of clubheads. I have exactly two people I would tell, and neither of them are family. Well on is but he isn’t … long story. Not appropriate here.
So Blackdog, do what is going to keep you safe and comfortable. I haven’t told either of my peeps about how far gone they are, although they have a pretty good idea. Neither would bring it up first because they know that is the fastest way to get me to stfu.
I told my friends and it’s really nice to have someone to talk to. At first i just told a few people several months apart because i felt like i needed to talk to them about it. A month or two ago i sent out a group text to a bunch of my friends because they were all asking these questions that i couldn’t answer and i was sick of keeping secrets so i just decided to tell them. I recommend writing out what you want to say. you can either read it word for word, send it in a text, or just make bullet points of the things you want to cover. if you know what you need to say it will be easier to get your point across. also, the blog hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com has two posts that describe depression and suicide really well. i sent my friends that link.