I often feel the same way. I feel I’m blinded by my own pain and I can’t help anyone else. Then I feel guilty. I think what we don’t notice is we help others in small ways. Just your presence can be helpful to someone.
It’s nice that you think of others but sometimes you have to take the time to help yourself as well. To be there for yourself.
There’s also another side to it: because we’re in pain, we understand pain, and are more receptive to listen to other people’s situations without judging. At times when we have no one, having someone that really listens and “gets it” is a huge help.
Actually you can help people here, and my guess is that you’ve already done so without even realizing it. I do hear you on the being consumed part tho… at times it seems like bad times never end.
I think you help people here. 🙂 There were a few times I felt better just reading one of your positive posts or comments.
I know how you feel though. I wish I could help more and feel consumed in my own darkness less. It isn’t always possible to help when you desperately need help yourself, but it’s amazing how much people can help each other even when they’re in pain.
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I often feel the same way. I feel I’m blinded by my own pain and I can’t help anyone else. Then I feel guilty. I think what we don’t notice is we help others in small ways. Just your presence can be helpful to someone.
It’s nice that you think of others but sometimes you have to take the time to help yourself as well. To be there for yourself.
Thanks.
I feel the same. Sometimes just the presence of someone can make… someone at ease.
The question is how can we help someone while we actually need help. Kind of complicated right?
You are right.
That’s why I said, I wish.
There’s also another side to it: because we’re in pain, we understand pain, and are more receptive to listen to other people’s situations without judging. At times when we have no one, having someone that really listens and “gets it” is a huge help.
Do As I Say Not As I Do is as old as the hills.
Actually you can help people here, and my guess is that you’ve already done so without even realizing it. I do hear you on the being consumed part tho… at times it seems like bad times never end.
I think you help people here. 🙂 There were a few times I felt better just reading one of your positive posts or comments.
I know how you feel though. I wish I could help more and feel consumed in my own darkness less. It isn’t always possible to help when you desperately need help yourself, but it’s amazing how much people can help each other even when they’re in pain.
You helped me today by posting that beautiful song today. You only posted the lyrics but I queued ip the song.