My whole life I have been used and abandoned by men. After my last heartbreak I pretty much broke. I have been overweight most my life but once lost 100lbs. While I don’t have that much to lose again I think I’m going to use my anger and frustration and put it back into working out.
I am going to concentrate on me and my health for awhile. I want to get fit again and then instead of a relationship I’m thinking of escorting. (Not prostitution). I just need something to shoot for a goal. I can’t “use” people without their knowledge so this is as close to cold hearted as I can get. Sometimes I wish I could be like the people that use me and treat me like I’m just a pawn in their games. I doubt I will go through with it but it gives me something to obsess on beside ending my life.
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I think it’s a good thing you want to channel those frustrations into a positive force that can help you out.
As for the other.. well i don’t quite know what to say to that.. I think i’ll say i hope you can find someone at some point who won’t use or take advantage of you, because it’s not something you deserve and there are good guys out there. Most people need a bit of trial and error to figure out how to find those good ones.
Sadly even if I did I don’t think I would trust them which means I would never truly be happy.
I know nothing about relationships but I’ve had a few female friends complain to me in the past that all men just want sex and they just use women and then move on. I suggested that they make changes to any future relationships by not having sex with any new partner until you have been with them for 3 months so that you know they are serious about wanting to be with you. I was just told I was an idiot and they had to have sex on the first night to ensure the guy would stay around. I would have thought that would make the situation worse by using sex to try and make someone stay when they may not be sure about the relationship. I’m not inferring that this has anything to do with your relationships, just what I have experienced in the past. I really know nothing about relationships and they were probably right saying that I’m just an idiot.
I understand how you feel about the weight issues, I’ve had weight problems all my life due to brain tumors affecting my hormone levels. I hope you can meet a decent man who will treat you well.
Growing up I always felt I had to have sex with guys to be liked. Having sex was the only way I felt “love”. I got married to the first man who offered after 2 months. After my divorce I fell in love with a man I thought would never leave. He treated me like I hung the moon. We didn’t have sex the first part of our relationship. Now I don’t want sex with anyone because I’m still in love with him. He didn’t love me obviously but I loved him and now I am hurting.
I was used more for money and stability. The guys won’t have cars, homes, ect. Now I have lost almost everything because I gave everything I worked for away.
@Mike you are correct, those women were basically saying they wanted to be used and that they were also using the guys for sex. Not every guy wants to have sex on the first date! Some like to get to know their prospective p.artner first.
I’m confused… “He treated me like I hung the moon. … He didn’t love me obviously…”
Sounds like he was great. Why did he stop being nice to you?
He never stopped being nice honestly. He never came home one night he had found another person. He even txt me the night before how he was counting down till he was home in bed. He sent me a txt he was done and lives with his new girl now. If you love someone you don’t do that.
Hopefully she’ll one day ditch him just as callously. “What goes around, comes around.”
Wow. That is very shitty. I’m sorry that happened to you. The end of a relationship is hard enough but for it to happen that way is like he carved your heart out with a dull knife. Omg.