I hate that I am overweight and that especially lately I comfort eat a hell of a lot. I hate my appearance -the fact I have naturally curly hair is a curse, I wish I had a cuter nose and a generally more feminine looking face, my appearance is top of my list of reasons of why I want to die, I hate the way women are treated in society in general-mainly valued for appearance and that fake beauty is valued more than natural beauty seems a lot of people find a woman’s un made up face unacceptable, I hate how weak I am both mentally and physically, my lack of common sense and the fact I can barely think consciously anymore -basically have to rely on urges to even function and I also hate my lack of motivation. I hate this society in general and the majority of humans…
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I also hated the most of things about me.
But someone suggested me to love yourself.
So… you also do the same.
I think you should post. “The things I love about me.”
Problem is I don’t really know what I love about me
And strangely it kinda feels good hating myself
I understand that weird feeling as well. The trouble is, it becomes an addiction. It traps you like a prison.
My opinion is this: that you have a lot of pent up anger/anguish/frustration and no outlet for it. Since you can’t take it out on other people, you turn it back inwards on yourself.
Is there any way you might be able to reverse this vicious cycle before it grows out of control? There could be a way to focus your energy on something other than self-abuse. An activity, a cause, a hobby. Any number of things might work.
Try hard. I am sure you will find something you love about yourself.
And appearance is for weak who can’t look even someone heart.
Someone who will love you doesn’t care how you look. He will find your appearance attractive.
But for now…. try hard and think what you like…about or anything you like. And post. 🙂
I have a boyfriend but I can’t understand why someone would love me since I don’t have looks or personality I’m just a waste of space
Has he told you what he loves about you? Maybe you could ask him.
I don’t know much about you but one thing I know for sure. If he truly loves you then nothing else matter.
So you can drop the shit about your appearance.
And enjoy the morning/evening/night. 🙂 🙂 🙂
Also I think what you said makes a lot of sense whispered fish, hobbies helped distract me from my self loathing but these days I really struggle to do anything that’s my problem
He’s used the words pretty, cute nice and sweet a lot I guess , he tells me he’s lucky to have me though I feel like the lucky one, I have mentioned my insecurities before but am scared if I talk about it too much it will drive him away
Like whiskered-fish(quite a name though 🙂 )
Hmmm like whiskered-fish said, has he told you that he loves you. 1st find out this.
Yeah he tells me a lot , he never treats me badly, just the scars of my past distort my perception and make me doubt him
If he says he loves you and he truly loves you then nothing matters.
You can talk to him.
(I know I wouldn’t leave my girl in any circumstances)
Before you share your deepest emotions just be sure he truly love you.
Hey, that happens to men too. If you’re a guy with a frail appearance you’re gay. If you’re a guy without lots of material goods you’re a loser. If you’re not an entitled idiot/showoff you get stomped all over. So in today’s society it’s more a thing of : pick a reason to tear other people apart.
That said, appearances can be changed (if you feel bad about them). You can always make an effort to lose weight if you don’t feel comfortable. But that’s the thing, you should do it because you don’t feel comfortable, not for others, because nowadays… heh, you’re never going to make everyone happy.
There’s still people that don’t care about those perceived ideals regarding looks and success tho, and your boyfriends sounds like that. Maybe you don’t see anything good about yourself (just read up your comments) but if he’s with you he must see something that you don’t see. And well, over time, you might see it too, but accepting yourself for what you are (and changing those part YOU want to change) are pretty much the key (imho) to see what’s good about you.
You know that you are able to change that your overweight right?
Despite everything just try and enjoy the time you have together with him. That you are together…
not that i enjoy anything myself… I hate people and society too
Work out! I can’t stress this enough. I just got back into it and I’m feeling more confident already. I know it’s hard when it’s been a while, but start slow and build up. Walk around the neighborhood. Get some work out DVDs and weights. Do situps, push-ups, anything to make you feel proud of yourself. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut. I know it, but you can get out! Push yourself out. If you don’t work out, what’s the alternative? To get bigger and hate the way you look even more.
It’s great you have a boyfriend, but this is something you need to do for yourself. Funnily enough, I didn’t start really getting into shape until I broke up. It was more motivation.
And there is NOTHING wrong with natural curly hair. It’s beautiful. I love my curls. My curls are dyed red and I adore it. One of my favorite things about myself.
Besides, pubic hair straighteners are expensive.