Yeah so this community just seems established and I just kind of feel like I’m in the background with the right qualifications but not really fitting in. I don’t know why I even came here to begin with, I knew it wasn’t what I hoped it was but I stayed hoping, well I don’t even know what I was hoping for. I wouldn’t bother commenting on this either if I was you, I’ll be closing my browser after I publish this.
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I wanna read your posts. Please don’t leave.
Hey, sorry you didn’t feel welcome… I haven’t been able to log in as often as I wish lately but, give us another chance?
It’s just not easy for me to comment on most posts and I don’t have much to offer. But you’ll see there is always at least someone commenting as best as we can…
Just wanted you to know we are trying to help each other and that if you want and can or have to share, feel free to do it, we at reading.
Please don’t leave. It gets better. I also didn’t feel like I fit in at first, but that changed. I’m sure many regulars here felt the same at first.
I think you fit in just by being here. People don’t always comment a lot but that doesn’t mean they’re not reading your posts and caring. A lot of times I feel like I just have no advice to offer and no way to help so I don’t say anything, but it certainly doesn’t mean I don’t care about what people are going through.
I’m sorry if we haven’t made you feel welcome but remember that people’s feelings aren’t always what you might think they are and we do care even if it doesn’t seem like it to you. I hope you keep posting here and that it helps you. If this isn’t the right place that’s fine, ultimately I hope you find what’s right for you.
I felt the same way at first, especially when someone left a mean comment on the first post I ever did.
But I stuck around anyway, just because it seemed like the good outnumbered the bad.
I’m glad I stayed.
You might eventually feel the same way if you stick around. 😮
I got to know the people by commenting on their threads, even if it was to say, thank you I read this. I have had many posts not commented on or receive one or two comments. It is just how things are in a community like this. Some days it is quiet around here, today was like of a perfect storm of silliness, which is needed IMHO when topic are as life and death as we discuss here. But truthfully, I give to get in return, even if it is just a thank you. There are a few lurkers on here who chime in once in a blue moon. They typically state they never comment but they read everything or most of what is posted. That means as much to me as someone who is here all the time commenting Everyone has levels of comfort interacting, even in real life. There is no shame in feeling awkward or shy or ballsy, whatever happens around here, it is honest.
I never know what the hell to say either. I’m no HDS or Mf or Cordless (just a few examples off the top of my head), but I tend to express myself through my stories.. It’s the only way I feel I can relate, the only way I feel relatable. There are many lurkers on here and a lot of the time, they feel just like that. Then, they find that one post or that one comment, and suddenly, they realize that they are just as heard…
Idk if you get my point but please, stay on and continue to post. Many good people who want to help you here..
Someone I know and respect from this website emailed me and asked me to at the very least come back and address these comments. I would like to apologize, my social anxiety got the better of me, I’m used to being the shy quite one and I wanted it to be different here. I have gotten tons of feedback on some of my earlier posts and I guess I overlooked them Hazy Day Sunflower so thank you, I appreciate the fewer amount of comments on a few of my posts a lot more now. Sadly and regardless I no longer feel like I can contribute to this website any more. Everything I had to say I’ve already said and it’s like a burden has been lifted because I never would’ve been able to talk to people close to me about any of this.
That is so nice. I mean really nice. Sometime just people listening is enough. If you get in a really bad headspace come back please? Or just lurk. Sometimes it is nice to read and lurk.
Also I just read a comment of yours elsewhere about you having a bad day. I hope it’s better for you tomorrow.
as long as I keep my mouth shut at work it will be fine. I’ll likely just plug into something like System of the Down or Nitzer ebb and just dive into the spreadsheet I have been working on analyzing. I am blessed in that I have a job where I am mostly left to my own devises most days and my peculiar ways are chalked up to just being delightfully eccentric.
How are you doing tonight?
I feel the same way here a lot too, it’s part of why I’m on here so off and on. Sometimes I post here just to get things out of my head and to vent. I know some people don’t comment on my stuff much, because I’m not that interesting when I talk about things and I write really long posts and I’m sure not everyone wants to hear all that. To be honest I don’t comment on a lot of people stuff either because I’m so used to people saying negative things about me and hating me that I don’t want to comment for fear someone will say my comment is stupid or I’ll annoy the posters.
I think that a lot of us have found this site for similar reasons which gives us common ground to begin with. I’ve been reading posts for a while and find it cathartic. Knowing there are other people out there that think the same or have shared experiences makes me realise that I am not alone.
I have noticed that SP is always evolving, with the vibe linked to which ever regulars there are at that time. This changes often. Although that’s also one of the hardest parts of SP, having people disappear and not knowing why.
I find myself thinking less and less about suicide, however the thoughts can come back fast and hard. In part, I think that the reason I have stayed on SP is because of the people. There are and have been an intelligent, funny, insightful and entertaining mix of people.
I’ll never fit in I feel like someone in a cardboard box looking through a peephole instead.
Really. Its just my thought
Stick around if you like we are all ears whether you ‘fit in’ or not,
There’s not a ‘fitting in’ requirement whether you feel if you fit in or not we don’t judge here, i don’t feel like i fit in anywhere