I’m about done, I’m tired of being the last child, I’m a twin, we’re the oldest, yet she gets everything, he gets everything, the baby gets everything. “How come I didn’t get to go to the restaurant?” -me. “Because we thought you were going to go outside.” -mum. “You don’t let me outside, I’m not allowed outside. Things would be easier if you didn’t have four kids, you could easily take care of us all, and maybe love us equally.” Then of course I get sent to my room. I’m tired. I’m tired of being tired of this life…
-BloodShallShed
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Identical twin or fraternal twin?
Fraternal
My dad has twin sisters, and my mom ALSO has twin sisters, so if a miracle occurred and I ever had kids, I’d be more likely to have twins myself.
I can see how it would be a rough situation, feeling like you’re not receiving the same amount of care/consideration/fairness as the rest of the family.
I think human beings are kind of hardwired to notice when injustice/unfairness happens; especially when we’re victims of it ourselves.
Something inside us says “Hey, wait! That’s not right!”
It’s even more frustrating when the situation doesn’t seem to be one we can fix on our own, or when the people causing the problem don’t want to listen.
Is that how your mum usually is?
Unwilling to listen or take your concerns seriously?
That’s how my mum is and more, she acts like she doesn’t care, she blamed my real father leaving on me, because for 7 months, she only went to get checked once and they told her that she was having one baby, and when she went there 7 months later, she learned that she was having twins (Me) I was too small for them to see at the time, so when she went and told him, he pretended to die and left. She likes to blame me for it, and say that it’s my fault.
I am the youngest of 2. I have one older brother. When I was a child my parents really truly favored HIM> He got all the bran new stuff. I got nothing but old hand me downs. He was the one they paid attention to. I was the one they ignored. They said they wanted him… and I was the unwanted one.
It did hurt to be treated like a mistake. It did hurt to see my brother get all the attention and me not get any. It was rough. Not to mention that my older brother and his friends pushed me around, beat me up and bullied me all the time in other ways and my parents did practically nothing about it. So I can relate.
If you can try to muster up the courage to confront your parents about this. Be honest with them and tell them that you feel like you are being mistreated. Tell them you feel like they treat your siblings better then they treat you and that you feel neglected. I say it again. Confront them if you can. Because they might not even be aware that they are mistreating you like this and likewise may not be aware of how you feel about it. You got to let them know. Try to talk to them about it. If you can’t talk to them about it directly then try to talk to another adult in your family about it. Like a Grandparent or an Uncle or aunt or something. That is the best advice I can give you.
Hang in there. Also I want to tell you that being young and under the tight direction of your parents doesn’t last forever. As time passes and as you get older you will gain more independence and more freedom. So hang in there. All of us to some degree or another have had to endure crap from our parents. So you are not the only one who has had parent issues.
This is not a reason to be done with life. These issues will pass. You have many years ahead of you and many great times will come your way.
Talk to your parents or another adult in your family about it. I hope things get better for you.
Ouch! They actually told you that you were a mistake?
Yup My parents told me over and over when I was a kid that they never wanted me.
They said I was a mistake and my Dad would go on about how much better his life would be if I hadn’t been born. He would actually say that right to me over and over.
It hurt me so much when they said things like that to me I felt like I was having a heart attack. My heart would like skip a beat and Id feel crushed. I had low self esteem for decades of my life because it it. When I got a little older (old enough to fend for myself) I ran away and didn’t talk to anyone in my family for about 4 years. But later on after me being away I reconciled with my parents and the rest of my family and now we all get along pretty good. My parents changed when I was away and we are all pretty close now. Thank God for change. Running away from that was one of the best things I ever did.
I know how it feels, since mum had twins and didn’t get checked, I feel that’s why she calls me a mistake, because she lost my real dad, who actually cared and bought her things all the time. I have very few people in the family who care about me, and they try and help me when they can, but because I’m 17 and graduated highschool as a junior, I’m expected to have a job and pay bills. Mum makes me pay bills, and though I just got fired from my first job becaus I had scars and marks, and they happened to see them. I found that was wrong but I told her that she has to do what she has to do. I pay the bills mum and her boyfriend don’t want to pay. (Internet, electricity, rent, water, etc.) they sit around, and drink and smoke, I am about to break them both. They make me do all of that and they don’t even respect me, it seriously upsets me, and I’m tired of it. I’m tired of feeling like I have to do all of this just so they can have a place to do whatever they want. And if I stop paying the bills, she can kick me out of the house, and I don’t want that to happen, I have no where else to go. And if I have to run away to get them to realize how they treated me, I will. I know how to live on the street, I did it for a while. I’m sorry all of that happened to you, I know how it feels being called a mistake, and treated like crap. It really sucks. Thanks for listening <3