Hi guys, hope you doing fine.
Well to attack the topic, I met a certain girl in college in september. I was eating in the cafeteria as I watched the students picking up their meals with their backs turned. But I noticed a particular back, a girl’s back, I was sure I knew this person from my high school because it had much in common with another girl I knew. But as she turned around I couldn’t look away, I was like an Y-wing with a target lock on a star destroyer. I looked at her and made a hand signal to come to me, first she looked behind her and then she came next to me.
We made acquaintance very fast out of nowhere. And after we talked for some days, I felt something I haven’t really felt. Boy, she was the whole package, beautiful, smart, same interests, depressed sometimes. And she liked me very much, even though I could only see her for half an hour, but she was the only excuse I would leave bed.
But she has a boyfriend. So my hopes to meet a near perfect individual from my point of view were crushed to an extent. We still are in touch, talking about interests and she really helped me when I was near emotional breakdown with a knife at my throat. She knew what it is like to have those feelings of death.
But communication with her is very hard, as it could take days for a simple reply. And there is the problem. When I passed time with her, she had her phone always ready, but why does she take so much time to just a send a reply like ” hey how are you ? I’m kinda busy right know. Hope you fine, bye”. She even told me she was scared that I would hate her for “reasons”.
I changed college and didn’t see her for what, 3 months maybe, but I am still very near her, our cities are not very far apart. So is it a typical “out of sight, out of mind” situation ? Or is she a type of girl that hates cellphones ? Have I done something wrong ?
I miss her really much, she is a good friend, she was there for me, but everyday I stare at my phone waiting for a respond, I tried even letters but no response.
Does she wants to break up our friendship ?
edit: ok guys, I know what I have to do
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She’s got a busy life. Make new friends.
Well you said that she has a boyfriend. And if she has caught wind of the fact that you really really like her…. then she might be wanting to distance herself from you because she is in a relationship. Lots of people who are in a relationship will distance themselves from anybody else who might have a crush on them.
I hate to say this but she has you at arms length. She really wants to be your friend but she doesn’t want you to get the wrong idea. Tough situation on either side.
I agree with October, make new friends. If she wanted to pursue this she would. I am thinking she still wants to be friends but that is all she wants.
So… what do you do for her?
Everything you described was pretty much her helping you out.
For a relationship, it’s not enough that she makes your heart flutter. You have to do the same thing for her.
Less holding a knife to your throat, more figuring out how to improve her life.
Bullseye.