Now that summer is coming I’m going to have to start wearing short sleeves so at one point I’m either going to have to tell my parents or they will find out about the scars that I have made on my wrist. I want to tell them that I have been doing it to myself but I don’t know how to tell them, and when I do tell them they are going to tell my whole family. And if my whole family find out they are going to start asking me questions all the time, and watching everything I do. It will make me even more suicidal because then it’s like I’m a kid again, I can do things on my own, if I need your help I will ask but for my scars on my wrist I’m not asking for help, I’m asking you to let me be. I’m pretty sure they would rather see the cuts on my wrist everyday other than never seeing me again. If they want me to be alive they have to let me cut myself, the cutting really helps me.
So here is my question for you, how should I tell my parents about this without everything becoming extremely serious?
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I doubt they will understand. Most parents just want to protect their kids.
I’m unsure how to even open the topic. Telling them you’re gay would be easier. For some reason I can’t fathom people just lose their minds at this kind of thing. Is there any possibility they will understand it is a form of harm reduction? As you do this to avoiding doing, you know, THAT?
Just think about it logically. Why wouldn’t they want to keep an eye on you if they found out? It’s not that they’ll treat you like a kid again, it’s that they’ll be concerned for you well-being Wouldn’t it upset you if you told them you cut yourself and they just shrugged and didn’t give a shit? A lot of people have those kinds of parents and family that don’t care about them.
If you tell your parents, you’re just going to have to deal with their reaction, no matter what it is. In my opinion, you want them to know. Otherwise you’d just keep wearing long sleeves even if it is summer. People wear long sleeves in summer all the time, it’s no big deal. But you seem as if part of you wants them to know.
When you tell them you need to tell them why you do it. You need to print out or text them some information about cutting and tell them that you’re in pain. If you want to be treated like an adult, then this is the way to handle it. Be straight up about it. Tell them that you’re not mentally stable and you cut yourself for relief.
Just from your post it seems that your parents love you. If you love them back you need to be honest with them… or don’t. Wear sleeves this summer. But don’t think you can dictate their reaction.
Honestly I wear hoodies all year round without cutting. Just wear hoodies? I dont envy your position at all