“For all the happiness you wish for someone, someone else gets cursed with equal misery”
-Sayaka Miki
“Remember this… and take it to heart: kindness sometimes leads to even greater tradgedy.”
-Homura Akemi
“Have I gone mad?
I’m afraid so. You’re entirely bonkers. But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.”
-The Mad Hatter and Alice
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If you lead on someone and then they turn into a stalker when you reject them, or screw them over, yeah, there might be an instance of “kindness turning into tragedy”… but is it really “kindness” if you have ulterior motives? I think not. True kindness that comes from a place of wanting nothing in return, only to do “the right thing” for the sake of “good deeds” in themselves, should not bring anything unfair to you.
And no one who tries not to be selfish gets “cursed” with misery. There are many people suffering, but often it’s because they were born into unfortunate circumstances.
There’s no law that says for one person to be happy, another must suffer. Instead of being negative, why not try to bring a bit of joy to others, and help those in less fortunate situations?
Very nice quotes. Here is where it is very interesting, 2 out of three are from Anime movies, the third from a children’s book. None of which were truly intended for children, even though on the surface appear to be so.
I have a secret to tell you.
I IM’d him. After almost 30 years of not directly speaking to him. I IM’d him because I had a dream of him. Nothing untoward or steamy. I just dreamed I was showing him a blue crawfish I found. The crawfish in question was spectacular. Just a sight to behold, like no other crawfish.
So I IM’d him and told him I dreamed I showed him a blue crawfish.
The magic was gone. He was always known to be an unmitigated braggart, but that is where the attraction always lay. But as I talked with him, light stuff, how I talk to people now, I realized that this was a man I really didn’t want to interact with. A self-consumed shallow soul. Interesting what 30 years can do right? We walk this earth and some of us change to bring all the tired souls into our lives to whisper secrets to.
Others just produce a food blog bragging about all the restaurants they went to world-wide. For about ten seconds I fell into the food competition game, as I can run rings around many in the kitchen, be it commercial or family cooking. But I caught myself. That isn’t me. Not any longer. That person doesn’t have room for the tired souls she so loves. The ones who allow me to walk forward in my life.
So I just stopped IMing him. Briefly looked at his food blog and thought, wow you are an asshole. And you haven’t changed at all. Interesting.
So things don’t get better, but they do get different. I am different. When I speak about things getting different it isn’t things around me, the folks that caused me pain, they don’t change, or rarely do. I change, by walking forward. So keep walking forward. One step two steps. Look back. Walk forward again. Thirty years. I look back I’m different. Not better, not worse, just different. I put out my hand for you fellow traveler, walk forward with me for a brief time. The weather is amazing.