(I took this half drunk in the backseat of a busted up minivan at two in the morning) So there’s me, I know “Ew”. Anyway, I spent most of last year (2015) and half of the year after (2016) thinking about what would happen if I ended my life. I tried once. 9-13-15. The special day. I thought I was dead. I stayed in my little comatose for a few days, before waking up in a smelly, white room to the voice of my best friend saying “SHE’S AWAKE!” It seemed like such a happy day for my family and the people who cared about me, but for me? A day I wish would have gone the other way. After I attempted suicide, I met this boy. We came to be best friends May 17th, 2016. We never fought. Never argued. We talked every day, from the second we woke up, to 4 in the morning. I had started smoking and drinking around 2016 New Years. I hung out with these kids who were older than me. Stoners and potheads. Idiots. After school started, me and the boy started arguing. Only occasionally. Rarely. Then, near September, he got heavier on drugs. He got high almost every weekend. I hated it. I hated it so much I did it too. He hated it. It was a pattern. A little after Halloween, we fought almost daily. We would yell at each other, he would insult me and hurt me so much. He always made me cry. Then the next day he apoligized and I always accepted it. Then he’d do it again. I had enough. I blew up at him. I screamed until I couldn’t breathe and cried until my eyes burned. He left. This happened about two weeks ago. He told everyone what a “slutty *****” and “attention seeking whore” I am. I’ve spent the last two weeks of my life not eating much and sleeping and crying. He didn’t care. Now he’s trying to come back. Fixate his way into my life. But I’m changing. No ore pointless sex with my druggie friends. No more crying over stupid fakes. No more acting. No more smoking or drinking. No more making my mom cry every other day. I’m changing. For the better.
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you’re brave for wanting to change and wanting to turn your life around. i admire that, i do. its funny cause im in the same situation with my boyfriend. we used to face time for hours and have deep conversations late into the night. now what am i to him? fucking nothing, im pretty damn sure hes only using me now. its awful, but i cant just bring myself to end it, he was and is such a big part of my life. i hope this plan to change works, and things go well for you. take care
Change is good, and change is an important and the best first step one can take
Because without daring a little change, everything will stay the same
So good for you
Only the best wishes goes out to you
The real challenge is staying motivated. I’ve also recently come up with a little list of aspects of my life to work on. Reasonable timing for this type of thing, being the new year and all. Here’s hoping for luck for the both of us. Just have to find inspiration where you can.
If nothing else, you can make these changes just to spite that guy you mentioned, haha. Bitter passive-aggression, however petty, can be oh-so satisfying.
And no, I don’t think you’re “ew” (can’t say that without being reminded of that Jimmy Fallon skit). Like many people on here you’re being overly harsh with yourself (particularly in your bio).
@magnificxnt –
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS. You are taking the right and necessary steps to becoming a better You and I encourage you to stay constant, to keep at it and give yourself the time this -and any other valuable life changing effort- requires to have a better and long lasting effect. The more you stay put, the easier it gets until it becomes your nature.
Secondly, WTH do you mean “EW”??? You are really pretty, no bs doubt about that! Now I don’t know how old you are, so I say this with all due respect. But girl, I must tell you I LOVE the natural look and you look super cute with that hint of rosé blush on your cheeks, lol! Yeah well, it may have been the alcohol, but that doesn’t change my point.
Don’t forget that “pretty” or “ugly” is subjective. What may be the most absolutely disgusting thing for someone, may actually be the most beautiful thing in the world to another, and vice versa. So don’t sell yourself short, don’t.
You will learn that sometimes it is fine to agree to disagree with people. Friends don’t need to agree on everything, that is not what ‘friendship’ is about. It’s about acceptance and companionship. So long as these people aren’t toxic to you, they can be in your life, but if they aren’t good, nix ’em from the picture, you need them!
No drug or casual sex is worth your while. You ARE so much more than you know, and I’m glad you’ve started seeing that.
My KiK: PaquitoDes
*Meant to say you DON’T need toxic people in your life.