This part took place almost A YEAR AGO and yes this use to be the happy me from last year although my happiness in seeing a future only lasted for a month
I saved up money hard and I helped out my mom at the same time I ignored the fact that I was still single I just kept at it with honestly and respectfully I gave it my all and I somehow managed to did this
Ok so far we are still viewing last year and yes That’s right I succeeded, this successful moment was taken place last year date was on March 1st of 2016 I paid off all my PERSONAL debts I looked ahead, my path was green it was soo good and yes at times I starved myself to compensate for my budget I was on my own my mother didn’t give me anything not 1$ nothing
I don’t know what’s wrong with me why I did this but I bought her a brand new TV from best buy 4K to replace the TV that was old and losing picture . I did this because my mom is a widow my dad passed away when I was 17 left a ridiculous debt buildings and a house complete drain to my life because my mother refused to let it go even if it would sacrifice her own children’s future & happiness the result of this today borrowing money from family friends and uncles that I got involved in just to try and keep the property’s even though we lost them accept for this stupid house we still owe thousands on top of lawyers fee I had much more $ triple more of what’s on my bank account screen shot but I gave to my mom for her to keep everything this is hard for me to write but I must finish READERS that can relate or those following along please PLEASE live for your self because watch how I ended up. So far were still on the date of last year. My father since when I was a child he would record conversations over the phone and he would keep important phone calls in cassettes everything family feuds all that. It tool me 5 years to hear all of it and when I finished listening to all the tapes I felt bad for my mom my dad treated her like shit he did a lot of stuff behind her back enough to make me cry the stuff I heard was traumatizing he never put me or my mom in his will on the property’s . That’s when I DECIDED TO HELP HER even though I swore that I wasn’t still. The Mercedes was another issue I already made an sp about it long story short I crashed it around this time to. Ok now let’s go to today’s date
- 1 YEAR LATER JANUARY 2017
this is what my bank and credit looks now this is what I drive
That’s right somehow I ended up here this car I bought from my cousin and it was a disaster I only drove it for 6 thousand miles in one year and I spent 4 thousand on repairs now it’s settled down and drives good I’m keeping it because I have no other to buy. Lol now the window switch broke and since the windows were down at the time when it broke I am forced to wrap the window with plastic and it’s cold but anyways back to the story
I don’t know where to start there is a lot more that has to do with girls but what’s there to say when I’ve been single my whole life. My mom is lucky she has the house she dreamed to have hahaha congratulations mom I hope it was worth it. My mom just recently walked into my room I haven’t seen her in 2 weeks and she came in saying “hi I got a call and you know we owe money to my friend righg” I go with no energy “ok how much do they need” she said “you don’t have to pay them back everything just give them ten thousand for now” I’m like WTF and she leaves I dident get a “thank you I appreciate what you did and how much you helped me” nothing wow just wow I hope all of you can benefit from this it took me a while to write all this there is soo much more so much important info but I don’t want to bore you more than I already have and this is enough as it is although I wish I could provide pictures of the work I did in my buildings.
Seems my tax money is going to our family friend it was for the building I was doing hard labor repairs and my mom was taking the rent money and using it for the house that’s how we lost the building that I’m stuck paying my her lawyer and our family friend I am 85 thousand in debt I make about $400 a week with zero support this is why I used up what I had left in credit to have an anime figure collection I made an sp on that last week.
There isn’t much to say anymore this is the truth my deadline is after I get my taxes.
I’m tired and all alone but until than I will still PUSH!!! Even though I lost even though it’s useless I’ll still push even though I’ll eventually end it money is not everything to me it’s being at peace with everyone with family I just that I want to change the environment for the better I want to be useful not a slave but this is how it is
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Why do you need to continue to give your mom money? She needs to pay back her friend? Tell her SHE needs to pay her back, not you. You’ve helped her enough. Don’t live the rest of your life in debt because of her. Yes, you’re already in debt helping her out, but that doesn’t mean you should continue to be her doormat and do whatever she wants and pays for more debt that she owes. You’ve sacrificed yourself enough. Doesn’t matter if your dad treated her like crap decades ago. This is here and now. She’s ruined your life already, don’t let her continue doing it.
Thank you darkness I was reading my post 5 times over making sure I didn’t confuse anything I left left few important detail that I will probably edit.
Anyways I appreciate your support I can tell you got the hit with it yourself. I was trying to go over all my history and photos I missed providing the part where I was scammed by a man from Romania before all this when I was 18 and so my mom helped me buy that Mercedes I paid half and so did she and yeah I paid her back but I’m grateful to her for allowing me to experience that luxury.
But you are freakin right I shared ten percent of this story to my Co worker and he was like “dude your one of those ppl I feel so bad for” my sister that’s married talks to me like it’s all easy like I have to do this. What pisses me off is my mom doesn’t only know that I’m being screwed because she uses the social security from my little brother that comes in every month and puts it for the mortgage on the house instead of saving it away for school for my brother. I tell her move out stay 6 months save money and run she refuses. I yell at my brother over and over “if you have a future planned and mom is suffering do not help you see what happened to me she takes what’s mine I don’t mind helping mom but it’s moms turn to help me but she doesn’t and you shouldn’t because what’s happening to me will happen to you”
Darkness I’m grateful to you a lot if only I had moved last year like I was planning I would had been free and when she would lose the house I would have had my doors wide open for her.
I don’t talk to my other older sister it’s been a year since we even said hi and we live in the same house. I barley talk to my mom unless it has to do with me paying a bill it’s only my little brother only him he’s the best. my older sister that still lives with us she would sometimes bring a guy in the house and I would be cool about it I would say hi all that friendly stuff. One afternoon For the first time in my life I brought two girls that were my friends over to my house just to give them a tour because they drove me home because I needed a ride from my mechanic because my car broke down. My sister immediately threw them out of the house just like that fuckin people
This is why I’m alone why people become alone but this situation where I’m at now isn’t easy to move forward and fuck your right but a the same time I’ve been alone bullied very little friends. Like what this girl at my job said to me “your fuckin cute for no reason” which is true
Don’t be sadlife958 anymore. Be standfirm958.
Disentangle yourself from her. Get a new job not involving the apt, hire someone else or make your mother do the work. Eventually move out and not live in the same house as her.
Sounds tough but she sounds like she’s sucking the life and soul out of you. She’s not good for you, and is only using you.
For the building it’s already gone we don’t own it no more. And the reason why our family friend agreed to lend the money was because I gave him my word that I would be responsible because at the time my mother agreed to allow me to run the building and use the money for the building nothing else but my mom went behind my back and used it for the house. So we ended up losing our tenants along with the building and I was left with debt and lawyer fees I received no thanks I’m 26 Darkness I can’t get out of this unless my mom sells the house we owe less than half of what it’s worth and it’s worth a lot and finally probate court approved to get the house in my moms name but she refuses to sell the house.
I don’t mean to be mean when I say this but you won’t be able to get a gf while you’re still in this situation. You need to be independent and away from your mother. 1- Girls aren’t going to find it very attractive that your life is so entangled with your mother and 2- She isn’t going to want to in debt with you 3- Even if you find a girl that accepts 1&2, she isn’t going to be too happy when your mom bilks her for money too.
I say this because I don’t want you to be perpetually sad. And a lifelong doormat for your mother.
Poor Sadlife
I’ve found that the most beautiful people are the ones who suffer most. Other men would have walked away. Your heart won’t let you. I’m sorry. That’s how it was for my Beloved as well. His heart was too big. I’m sorry
Yes, the nicest people generally tend to get screwed. I’m an example too. I’ve also seen it happen to a LOT of nice people.
It makes this world so ugly
good* people I mean. “Nice” wasn’t the word I wanted to use. “Nice” is someone who is polite, at least outwardly. A “Good” person is what I meant.
Yes, 1FineDay, and that’s why I no longer trust people or want to be around humans. Sad.
Yes I thought that’s what you meant.
Truly good people are the ones who get it.
The better the person, the worse they get it
I know it sucks I’ll still try I’ll still go but I’m not afraid to die I’m really over that fear. I just want to see how life plays plays on and thank you for reading
Always try Sadlife, things will probably get better for you
You just need a good plan
Do you want to move out and start fresh?
Yes but I can’t my tax return is going straight to this family house mortgage issue. This will be my 4th straight tax return with will go to this matter again.
Why do you have to contribute 100% of your tax return and 100% of your savings? Why does this have to fall solely on your shoulders? What is your sister doing to help? She is living in the house too.
idk, if I were you, i’d just pack up and leave.
it’s super shitty she’s also stealing your brothers’ social security. it’s supposed to be for him, not for a mortgage on a stupid sinkhouse of a house. i assume he has health/mental issues if he gets SS?
I don’t know darkness because that’s how shitty my life is even though your right why should I contribute 100%.
As for my brother he gets social security because of my dad that passed away. So he’ll receive it until he’s 18 and that’s in 4 years from now but yeah she uses it. As for my sister she works and helps now. My mom works to at a long point it was just me who worked but this crap is a lost cause that’s why I bought those figures so when they say shitty about my figures I tell them the same about the house. Hah I’m kind of enjoying my loneliness it feels good to walk and not give a fuck if a car hits you or if you lose a hand this strength is great to have for a high cost though
And I’m sorry again about your pain we all have scars I guess while we breath we just gotta deal with it ughh
Wow I never imagined it would drain this much energy outta me to post this
It’s a long post. I’m sure you’ll feel better later knowing you got it out, or at least 70% of it 😛
Yeah I got a lot out crazy thing is if I do end it there is no doubt this post will be covered so I don’t want it looking like my mom is the devil I just don’t want what happened to me to happen to my brother this thing isn’t only because my mom but yes she played a part of it so did my dad but what my long term loneliness that placed it’s spot hard
I got the gist of your story but I don’t think the whole thing. Anyways here’s my take-if the buildings were generating income enough to pay for themselves it would’ve been best to hold onto them if property values were good in your area. If you were losing money it’d make sense to sell them.
It seems your mother is taking advantage of you and your siblings. At the same time though she’s giving you a place to stay and I think it’s best to keep that house if you can, renting sucks ass. Yes you have a mortgage, maintenance and other issues, but it is your property-as long as you pay your bills, no one can kick you out.
Nothing personal but since you don’t make much money, it really makes no sense to own a luxury car-but I figure you probably already learned that lesson the hard way.
I believe in cooperation so if you and you siblings could pool your resources together, that could benefit everyone and given that your mother is a widow I think it’s only right to help her keep her house…plus you’ll always have a place to stay if you lose your job or something.
As for the 85k debt, you might want to consider filing for bankruptcy if you feel you’ll never pay it back, or they could renegotiate with you for a smaller amount.
If you commit suicide imagine what would happen to those who rely on you. Not to say that you owe anyone anything-but that maybe you’re the only support for others.
In my case my mother’s health got bad and she was unable to work regularly. Had I committed suicide, my mother would’ve been living on the streets and probably died from exposure or worse, since my siblings would’ve never helped her.
I could write a book on how much I hate my mother and all her faults, at the same time, she’s also has a good side. I hate my siblings for forgetting how much she’s done for them and yet they’d turn their back on her.
As much as I hate my life and want to end it at times-I don’t intend to unless she passes away first (from natural causes) or is living in a good situation, in a house that she can afford-where I don’t have to worry about her. Otherwise I plan to stick around as long as I can. Growing up poor while we had our problems, my mother largely shielded us from the harsh realities of life. For that and many other reasons I’ll always be grateful to her and will always shield her from the same harshness.
To follow up on someone else’s point here, if us good people didn’t help others, I think there would be much more misery and suffering in the world. It’s one thing to allow yourself to be taken advantage of (be fooled) but it’s another to willingly help someone even when you know they’re ingrates and don’t deserve it, because you feel it’s in the greater good.
Thanks for your reply day 2 day the building was generating money and yes there was trouble with people paying rent but it paid for itself. The value wasn’t so high but it wasn’t low either.
My mom is taking advantage but the mortgage taxes insurance is almost 3 thousand a month and we make together probably 70 thousand a year plus car payments and maintenance on the house. After we lost the building we missed 3 straight payments and the bank somehow agreed to lower everything to 2200 but there’s still gas, car payments food. There is no need to put a roof over my head I can do that I said to her let’s get an apartment let me do the work and go to school and I’ll buy a house in the normal living value. But still $2,200 a month that’s nuts taxes is $750 alone. Yeah I live in Connecticut
No doing what you recommend is just like saying stay broke for the rest of your life man this thing is not easy I’m 26 this has been going on since I was 17 when my dad passed away. I understand your way of language since you have a mom as well but we gotta live to. My mom tells me don’t worry the house will be paid off in 9 years I’m like WTF I gotta go and repeat this nonsense. No it’s time I plan my end game
You are truly a good man. A man who cares for his mother is rare. With that being said, your mom is taking advantage but you know that. I wish there was something I could say to make things better for you. Unfortunately I can’t cause you’re the one in control of your own life just like the rest of the people on here we control our future, or lack there of. The one thing most of us have in common on here is depression or life is just hard. Life really sucks sometimes. Like you last year was an amazing year for me too I had someone who cared for me and helped me fight my demons and fast forward to this year and I’m ready to quit life once again cause I am stuck trying to fight them alone like I have forever and it gets so tiresome. As for the person who said you’ll never have a gf because of this, I don’t believe that for a second you’re hard working and very caring of your mom which means you know how to treat a female right emotionally and supportively. Idk that’s just how I see it. Ok I’ve gone on long enough. I hope things get better and I’ll end with this you need to try and live for you. Leave the state take your money and run. I guess that’s my advice.
Hahahahhah thank you for the kind reply yeah my mom is taking advantage big time. the person is right because me being broke and damaged like this isn’t going to get me anyone. Yes I do know how to treat a women and stuff but that won’t hell me. I went above and beyond to give her a hand and it’s not her fault it’s mine to I could had walked a long time ago but I stayed. The other pain last year is that my best friend left me. I pushed to get her back I’ve never felt like shit but it’s there she is married now and I lost her she is too cool for me she lives the good life with ease and no problem. We haven’t talked since her marriage but if I do end it and somehow she sees these comments I want to say “FUCK YOU YOU PEACE OF SELFISH TOO COOL SHIT ASS IGNORING FAKE BACK STABBER ASS PEACE OF SHIT” but there I feel a lot of relief thank you for replying
I don’t handle well under stress. At all. Even with the smallest things. I know it’s going shitty, but even so I have to tell you I’m amazed at how much shit you managed to pull through on your own. Your situation looks like something that I wouldn’t be able to survive in at all. I’d have been dead way earlier in the post but you made it through all of that. That’s pretty incredible in my opinion; what you’ve done and what you’re doing is extraordinary.
Thank you very much for your comments I do not know myself how I am doing this but truth I have gone insane I yell and sing for no reason at my job when I’m working. IM just fed up and it has gone long enough so I plan on ending it
I feel you SadLife I may be young but I learned to grow up fast. lets just say i’m a highschooler but I feel ya.
Thanks a lot appreciate. I hope you anyone else never has to waste there future and time on these nonsense matters. Most of this could’ve been avoidable. God bless hope this site is helping there’s so much here that I realized & I’m great towards members here