You see, I was on pinterest the other day and I was looking at depression/anxiety/suicidal/… pins.
But almost all of them were about girls being depressed, suicidal,…
Are girls more often depressed/suicidal than guys? (I’m a guy)
Or why are they all about girls?
I really don’t get it, why can’t they be about guys too?
I mean, we are humans too, and we can be depressed/suicidal too you know…
I didn’t mean to be offensive, so sorry if I offended you! I just think that guys and girls are equal, and I don’t understand why this depression things centers around girls so much (on pinterest).
Greets Kur0-Nek0
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I think its more along the lines of girls share it more, and it gets more attention, cause, well girls do, sadly guys aren’t taken as seriously (btw I’m a girl and I’ve noticed stuff like this too) it’s not fair, but I don’t think it’s, intentional
That might be true.
I mean even my friends don’t take me that serious, even though I cut myself.
It’s really sad, but I’m happy that this site isn’t like that!
Greets Kur0-Nek0
1- It’s because society tells men to be men, to stuff their feelings, not be “emo” and not to talk about it, whereas if you’re a girl, you’re encouraged to “talk about your feelings” and all that jazz. So it’s just not as “acceptable” for men to come out with depression and suicide.
2- Also, men who attempt suicide tend to succeed (ie. guns) more often than girls (ie. pills), so they won’t be on the forums to talk about depression and feelings. These two things are part of it.
Obviously men and women both suffer from depression, likely at the same rate. Just society is less open to men openly talking about suicide, depression, etc.
3- Also, you’re referencing specifically on Pinterest. Women are more likely to express themselves online, with pics, poems, words, etc than men. Equal representation only occurs when men also want to openly share their stories and feelings online.
So- if there aren’t as much males posting about depression online, it’s because of guys not feeling as comfortable being open about it.
If you want more content online of men talking about depression, then you can start.
Mhhh
Your points are kinda interesting, and I agree with all of them.
I only post here because I am anonymous, and ofcourse because it’s that kind of site.
I never use facebook (only the messenger app), and I don’t post anything on twitter either.
I won’t start content about depressions for males though, I suck at everything.
Everything I try just fails big time, so I’ll just stick to watching anime and playing video games.
Greets Kur0-Nek0
well statistically men are supposedly more suicidal than women, at least we are more prone to die from it, where as women can have more thoughts and feelings about it, but are able to communicate it and allowed to better, you know that old tripe “girls talk about their feelings”, so they get treatment
but it likely stems from that whole machismo thing going on with guys, or at least the imposed stoicism that is inferred on the male sex, so in most cultures they don’t get to speak up about it as much or show it, you know that whole stupid thing: “a man don’t cry”, probably a big part of it
would be nice if people could just be people despite of dongs or muffs, but i guess it’s too much to ask for in a world where a man can’t be allowed more than 3 tears in his lifetime.
1 when you lose a love in your life, 1 when your favorite eatery/bar closes, and 1 when your team wins the championship
1 more tear and you’re out, nut up and shut up,
but don’t think that means girls are more suicidal than men, we are just some macho stoic bastards that will bite our teeth to our fcnk grave
now where is that log so i can split it with my bare hands, and make a nice club to bash some pterodactyl for dinner
I didn’t cry much when I was a kid.
People sometimes even say that I don’t have emotions at all.
I do cry for anime though ;_; (Clannad, AnoHana and Angel beats)
I cry quite often now though (only in the bathroom at my house), but I don’t even know why..
I just start crying for no reason at all. Kinda weird lol.
And indeed, a guy who talks about this kind of things is considered weird by most “normal” people. They would just call him an emo, gay, different, girlish, attention seeker,..
Greets Kur0-Nek0
Consider, if a young woman starts a suicidal pin she means it to be seen by… other suicidal young women.
Males aren’t going to do that. I think they should, but admitting weakness is pretty tough on a male.
Feel free to blaze a path!
Not trying to be unfriendly, and I understand what you mean.
But I disagree with the weakness part.
People who go through these things are in my opinion stronger than normal people who have always lived a peacefull and happy life..
Something we can only dream of..
Greets Kur0-Nek0
As someone who’s probably going for a rave in their their grave soon. When we die it won’t matter if we’re male or female. Just the body we were placed into. I’ll absolutely admit as a male that I’m scared of dying and non existence even after all the shit I’ve been through. Dunno why, it should be a pleasure to get it over with. There is nothing for me in this world anymore, but I’m still holding on. It’s ridicolous.
Lol even my friends say things like “just kill yourself” to me.
And they think that’s okay to say if they tell you that’s just a joke.
So I also don’t really know why I’m still alive.
I guess I just don’t want to hurt my family..
Im a male and im depressed too. I also cut, and I am GAY. I gave up on telling people I feel cause no one cares when your a male.
I am not gay, and I am not interested in guys.
But I don’t get the taboo about gays and lesbians though. It”s kinda stupid.
Just let them love who they want to love..
And it’s true that no one cares about males when it comes down to the feelings kind of part. even though we can also feel things, and that’s just because we’re humans too.
People on SP care about males 😛
@_darkness
That’s true!
It’s weird that I feel better on a suicide site than on social medias like fb and twitter lol
Greets Kur0-Nek0
People should be more accepting about ALL people, whether you’re male, female, gay, trans, ethnic, depressed, poor, or anything else. Unfortunately, we live in a shitty society where people are shitty and hate on others for no reason. That’s also why I hate this world, but that’s my rant.
@_darkness
but still we are single and unmarried and lover less. SP really needs to rework their matchup algorithm to make some better dating profile connections
Social media sites I think make depressed people feel MORE depressed. At least it does for me.
True,
This world is pure shit to be honest..
Well, it has always been shit though.
@The Last Snorlax
I have been single for my whole life.. ;_;
Be kind they said, It will bring hapiness they said..
@ _darkness
I have never really liked facebook
prefer twitter, but I only follow youtubers though
Yeah, no one cares about guys :/
not true, morticians care a lot, because we are good for business
dark humor, i know
nothing wrong with dark humor..
I even love it!
embrace the darkness… 😛
what’s dead but always thriving?
hint: they never have a going out of business sign, despite having no return customers
@ The Last Snorlax
Mhhh
I don’t know, sorry..
Greets Kur0-Nek0
Mortuaries/morgues !
death is ALWAYS in business, god might supposedly have rested on the 7th day, but death sure as shit never takes a vacation
for job security, it doesn’t get much better than that
@The Last Snorlax
Job security, you said?
I might just have found my dream job…
Greets
25 comments…
I didn’t even expect to get one comment!
Greets Kur0-Nek0
people read every post, sometimes even the ones that get deleted right away
even if a post doesn’t get commented on it still always gets read by some, many,
take solace in that, even if it doesn’t have a “fb like” button, every post still matters to someone on SP, even if no “likes” or comments or “up votes”, a post always gets read by someone
there might just be a personal “secret” reason not to comment
@The Last Snorlax
I think it’s better for this site to not have any like or upvote buttons..
I just feel wanted (as a human being) for the 1st time in a couple years..
It just made me a little bit happy 🙂
I mean look at me, I was crying like a baby not even 3 hours ago, and now I’m smiling (not even a fake smile).
Greets Kur0-Nek0
couldn’t agree with you more,
some times some people desired some sort of “counter” so they could get some affirmation, be it popularity contest desire or more innocent, but i too think it’s good it’s not here
though maybe something like a “consolation” at the top of the front page, saying stuff like “don’t worry every posts DOES get read, even if not commented on”, since sometimes it does seem like some people get the feeling no one reads or relates to them/their posts, when there are just other things at play for people not to comment
sort of like “i felt so distraught i came here to the last place there is, and no one talks to me even here” so they might feel “rejected”, where as if they had stayed on SP a while longer they would have known, sometimes, even here, people just don’t know what or how to respond, so they refrain, despite understanding the “newcomer”
They should indeed say something like that.
I too find it hard to comment sometimes, but I try my best to respond to everyone.
But it’s also the fact that people never really reply to me; not in real life, not on youtube, not on twitter.
I was also alone for this whole summer vacations (2 months).
So it kinda suprised me to see so many people commenting here, for the first time i felt that I was worth talking to…
So thank you for that!
Greets Kur0-Nek0
How many viewed our post is okay, but definitely not the like/dislike button. We are already feeling shitty about ourselves, no need for people to downvote or dislike our posts and make us feel even worse. That stuff is already so toxic on social media. You could literally be the Dalai Lama, or Mother Theresa, talking about love and peace, and I guarantee you, there will still be hundreds of people who’ll dislike and downvote that video/message/post. See that s*** on YouTube all the time.
@ _darkness
yup
on social medias even some christians could find reasons and ways to troll and flame at and downvote jesus himself
OMG, if Jesus was real, went on social media, and posted something, he seriously would get downvotes and dislikes from people. That’s how crazy our world/people are these days. And all the people screaming “What would Jesus do” would bash Jesus for what Jesus actually stood for. smh, humans…
I think cannibals deserve to be discriminated against. THERE, I SAID IT!
@SeeSmith
Let’s leave the cannibals alone, kay?
I don’t want to be eaten..
Greets Kur0-Nek0
Oh yeah, sure, leave the cannibals alone is how it starts. Then it’s yeah, go ahead and nibble on my friend as long as you leave me alone. Next, well I don’t really need that toe…
@SeeSmith
Okay, Okay..
Let’s fight them, but I’ll use a gun, kay?
I don’t want them to get too close to me..
Greets kur0-Nek0
ahaha, you’re killing me Smith,
that is like the best delightfully morbid version of “first they came”‘ish story i’ve ever heard
Wait… cannibals might be the key… I for one would probably choose starving over eating another person… and at that point is it suicide… really?
Statics prove girls attempt suicide 4 times more than guys but guys succeed ten times more than girls do
Yup, cuz guys are more likely to use guns, and girls tend to use pills, which aren’t as effective.
I wish guns were legal here ;_;
Then I might have had some reliable method
where ya at?
Belgium
You?
‘Murica. Land of the gun-totin’ trigger-happy bastards
Mm, wish I lived in Belgium instead. I hear Belgium has a much higher standard of living, better education, better educated people, etc
Sounds great!
Well im going to bed though
I have to go to that shitty place called high school..
And its already 1:45 am here..
Ugh only 5 hours of sleep left
Goodnight
Belgium has shitty weather though
That’s so true good point darkness and good night Kur0 lol it’s 8:07 here in USA eastern