Not wanting to get out of bed everyday in the morning is not normal,
Feeling tired ,exhausted, lazy all the time is not normal.
Unmotivated all the time. I don’t feel any excitement in my life anymore. I’m always feeling down and feeling low all the time. Everyday is the same day and nothing changes.
I sit around a lot, unable to be active
avoiding all the necessary works and just want to sleep for a whole day and do nothing.
I’m not normal and never will be.
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I understand and can relate
Yup, every day for me. I feel like my soul is just drained out and now I’m just a walking shell of a human.
Yep pretty much exactly how i feel everyday.
I’m the same, I was always a bit of a lazy bastard though. 🙂 No energy, or motivation anymore, it happens when you don’t want to be here anymore. I’m proud of the brave face and act I’ve put on every day though for the past months. Should be up for an oscar really.
Exactly, the lack of energy, motivation, driver comes from when you no longer wish to live. When the thrill of life dies.
Yup, it’s the same for me every day. Simply getting out of bed seems to take away all my energy. No motivation to live, just a blank emptiness.
I don’t know if it will help or not, but I’ve dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts for so long I really can’t remember a time when I didn’t. It’s been since I was a small boy and now at 57 it’s old hat.
Thoughts of suicide have always been with me. It rarely if ever leaves, but I have strategies to help me.
First, realize killing yourself is really difficult. It’s more difficult than just living through to the next day.
Suicide attempts more often than not end up in severe pain and you’re still alive to have to deal with the pain.
The human body doesn’t want to die. Even though your brain may seem to scream let me die there’s always a much stronger part wanting to survive and quite often it feels as if it’s a huge burden, but in fact it’s how we make it to old age.
Getting old is a great idea and face it, If you’re not getting old you’re already dead. Getting old is everyone’s default position like it or not. You cannot get away from it no matter how long you live.
Anyway, enough of that.
Find a hobby, anything besides wanting to die. Suicide is possibly the worlds worst hobby. Find something else to occupy your mind.
I took up woodworking. I’m pretty good at it even though it took me a long time to get good at it, but it keeps me busy and it gives me a feeling of accomplishment.
Most of my woodworking projects are simple things made from inexpensive pine, 2x4s and such. I just finished making a workbench to give to my son. Before that I made a jewelry box for my granddaughter. If you think about it you probably know someone who would love to receive something you’ve made with your own two hands. Making and giving things you’ve made to others can give you a great feeling of accomplishment, but you don’t even have to give them away. I do because I enjoy it.
There are many many other types of hobbies and many cost very little to nothing. Hobbies don’t have to be expensive. Mine happens to be expensive, but the tools I’ve acquired have taken years and many are very inexpensive. You don’t have to start out with super expensive things to have a hobby. The main thing is to give yourself something to do to keep your mind off your perceived problems.
Another thing, no matter how bad your problems may seem they can always be worse.
The very fact that you are reading this right now means that you have time to sit and read. Many people throughout the world don’t even have that. You don’t have bombs exploding overhead day in, day out. Your life isn’t anywhere near as bad as say a Syrian refugee. Things can always be much much worse and the opposite, they can get much much better. Try for better.
When you wake up tomorrow make it a point to tell yourself that you are NOT going to indulge yourself in self pity. Feeling sorry for yourself might seem like a good idea, but can you think of anyone who also feels sorry for themselves that you actually like? Nobody really likes being around someone else who does nothing but feels sorry for themselves ESPECIALLY when that person actually has it pretty good.
Bottom line, find reasons for wanting to get out of bed in the morning and stick to them and cultivate people who you want to be around physically. Online friends are ok to an extent, but real live flesh and blood human contact is much better.
These are just some of the ways I get through to the next day. I know that I will have more crappy days, but I try to look forward to the days that aren’t as bad.
Yeah, it’s a massive effort to get out of bed for me as well, when I wake up and realise I probably wont die today it saps my energy..
Ah well, I’ve hopefully got one last fight and one last stand in me to get the hell out of here…..
Yeah, I have no motivation to wake up in time to get ready for work. Its the meds for sure. I’m so tired all of the time. Before meds I had no problem waking up. Now I sleep through both alarms.
As long as I’ve battled depression and suicidal thoughts I’ve steered away from the medications. I’ve taken them in the past, but as long as I’m still alive I might as well make good use of the time and being too medicated to even want to get up and do things just doesn’t cut it.
Personally I don’t trust anyone who thinks that I need a pill to get through a day without getting all buggy.. The shrinks I’ve dealt with, and there have been many couldn’t pour piss out a boot with directions stamped on the heel much less help me get through the day. Your experience might be different. I’m old and ache all over, but I just got finished trimming all the bushes in front of the house. If I were medicated I would never even think about it.. I certainly wouldn’t be using the sharp tools I have for woodworking.
Thanks for reading and for your
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Its sad that we have to go through this shit everyday but feels a little better to know that I’m not alone.
@oldone Good to know you are making better use of your time.
Living a life with depression is not easy. Sometimes it becomes so important to keep our mind distracted from all these things .
when I was a child , I loved doing paintings and wanted to learn playing guitar and singing. As the time passed I had to leave them behind. I’m a grown up girl now and have so many responsibilities. I miss those days.
I feel your pain. Getting old is hard. I’m still young but while
Struggling through life I feel like there’s no energy left. I’m still trying but not sure about the results.