Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on where they would rather be to die. At home in their bed, in a chair downstairs or outside somewhere.
I’d rather be in my bed but then I worry that my partner wouldn’t sleep in it again. I think out in the open somewhere would be peaceful but then you would waste the time of police etc searching for you.
Any thoughts?
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I had to plan carefully to make sure I would have the privacy I need (a lot) and the time I need (not much – my plans are pretty quick) and still be found within a reasonable amount of time. There is one other issue concerning my chosen locations that I can’t risk explaining – somebody with the right training/knowledge would guess what I’m going to do – but I had to factor that into the equation too.
For my own convenience my bedroom would be nice. Hate to be found like 6 weeks later by my mother or something though, for her sake. Solitude would be ideal, just let me rot without ever being found probably next to a creek or some pleasant running water in a desolate wooded area. Then i considered others if i were never found, the not knowing, that might be worse, right? There was a news story that ran for a few weeks about a college aged young man that went missing, the search and constant reporting blew my mind. So my plan, if ever actually acted upon, is splitting the difference. I might even leave a note or notes if in the woods warning the unsuspecting passerby to turn back, call the authorities, you may not like what you see…
I thought about mailing a couple of notices to the authorities (two in case one didn’t get delivered). However, I should be found within 48 hours, and if I were to change my mind (unlikely once I’m there) I couldn’t get those letters back. Of course, that would FORCE me to go through with it because I would know hospitalization (and all the life destruction that accompanies it) would be waiting for me.
Do it in motel or something. That’s were I’m doing it in couple of weeks. I think you just turn your house into a graveyard if do at home.
Thats where im doing it too im a couple of weeks. Motel. Feel bad for the cleaning lady.. but oh well.. its the best place. How are you gunna do it tragedyofjohn? Od?
Yeah, a hotel might be right. There’s something nice about nature though.
And yes, Notice to the authorities couldn’t be taken back should i bail out. I have a similar concern about finances, online accounts, etc for my next of kin – how to give access or notice without sending up a red flag. I’d also prefer it’s all legal and above board, I have no actual estate but i know that kind of thing can get hairy in the legal system
Depends on the method of death I suppose. If I die at home it would take a while for someone to find me especially if I was on holiday from work
I don’t actually think about where. I have thought about how poetic it would be to just walk into the sea and drown on a dark, starless night.
I want to do it in my backyard, at night, looking up at the stars. There’s a rather large mound where a tree used to be. I would lay down facing up and just drift away.
1. Outside, in a discrete but discoverable location. Take a few basic steps to minimize trauma to whoever in case discovery is not by first responder.
2. Hotel room but be sure to nail or tie door so that they get the hint….
Just a thought – when people die (regardless of how) a fuss is made and time and money is spent handling the corpse, investigation, autopsy, whatever. If I need to catch the bus someday I have thought of ways to prevent discovery by non-professionals or at least limit what they would see. I have thought of ways to make discovery relatively soon so as to minimize anxiety among survivors too.
In my case, discovery and recovery are a big deal and I must be very careful. Preparation for this will be the riskiest part of my final moments. It’s the only part that makes me nervous.
Hmm … I’m guessing that, somewhere in your detailed plans, are the words “open casket” ?
I know of at least one other reason that you brought up in the post-crash anxiety post, which I won’t repeat here.
Nope. Cremation, no funeral.
Ensuring suitable discovery and recovery to the level of it becoming the riskiest part of the final moments sounds interesting.
If I owned a home where *uninterrupted* privacy and *tranquility* were abundant, that would be it – perhaps, my backyard.
But, given the lack of any private space to call my own (I own all of about 33 cents), nature has plenty of beautiful and peaceful forested areas that could serve as the perfect backdrop for the end of the charade 🙂
P.S. Unlike a lot of y’all, I don’t have to worry about discovery. In fact, where I’m going, I expect it could take years before I’m found, if at all. Leaving no one behind, so that’s one less thing to worry about.
No one’s going to kick up a big fuss looking for my corpse. I would, actually, love to posthumously provide sustenance for a family of mountain lions.