I dropped out of college 3 months ago and came back to live with my parents. I’m only 21 but already I feel like I failed to succeed in life.
I’m having thoughts about killing myself even though I’m not in a depression. My gf and my family support me they say I will find something else.
I just can’t stand that every day I wake up I feel like a fucking loser who has no purpose.
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College doesn’t guarantee success. Chances are you’ll just build a lot of debt while working a shit jpb to pay it off.
@BlueDiamond good point of view
@doom9999
First of all, welcome to the site
Second of all, I don’t agree with the title of your post
but for now, I’ll just let it pass…
If we take it as a fact that you are currently an unsuccessful person…
do you find it logical to consider that you are “bound” to be so forever…
that this is something you can’t change
?
I find that answering “Yes” would be so difficult to believe
when just a few months ago
you were Actually In College
where would the loss of hope come from?
I have a lot to say to you
but I need to know more about ur life
do u think we can talk?
Well, thx for your interest. The thing is I wasted my best chance at a good payed job and good life (plus wasted a ton of money from my parents).
I have been always the golden boy in the family, everybody was saying oh, he will make it easy, he is good, smart, etc…..
Now that I failed I just can’t stand to watch the disappointment in my parents’ eyes, they still support me, but I hate it.I was always making fun of losers and those who achieved nothing in life and now I feel like one of them, but yeah its not too late to change things I guess.
You haven’t failed yet mate, not by a long shot.
If you have a moment search this “people who were successful after they were 40”
Some very surprising people on that list.
I mean, look at tarantino for example, he was working in a video shop before he became successful and he didn’t even go tomfilm school.
Getting an education is good, but it is not the be all end all of everything.
Some people are not meant to go society’s conventional way.
Be true to yourself mate, do things your own way.
it’s okay,
u’r in, let’s call it, “shock”
that’s fine…
it will fade out with time… specially as you follow practical steps to move on forward
but for the sake of the conversation,
may i ask,
where there reasons for dropping out?
My parents wanted me to study IT engineering because it is a high payed job.I was a good student but i lost interest and realized I dont like it.
Many many many apologies for my delay 🙁
I’m really really sorry 😐
Okay
3 more questions:
[1] Are you completely 100% uninterested in that major or do u feel there’s a chance u could gradually be more interested while at the same time being good at it?
[2] If 100% uninterested & no chance to ever be interested… Was it, at that time, possible to change major to one u’r interested in instead of dropping out all together?
[3] Most iportant question here
Is it possible that you go back & join next semester???
[you only missed one & i know of so many people who take a “semester break”… I think there’s still a chance you could fix this…
but only if u actually want to fix it]
First
make up ur mind that this is what you want to do
OR
That this what’s best for you eventhough u don’t really “want” to do it
[that’s okay… So many times in life we get put in a position where we need to choose what’s best for us even if we hate it & don’t want it rather than what we want / long for… Usually, later in life u are grateful u made such decisions of mind rather than heart… Please consider & reflect on this concept…]
If u decide u don’t want to go back
Then what needs to be done is easy
Simply figure out what is it u want to do
Put a plan
& follow it
[& i could help u with that if u wish]
But if u’r interested in trying to fix the situation & get back
Please read on
Second,
Now that u’v decided to try going back
determine if u’ll try to rejoin the same major & consider question [1]
OR
join a new major [knowing that u might need to start from scratch… if that’s okay with u, determine what that new major will be & inform urself fully]
Third
Inform ur parents of ur decision
& discuss it with them
[accept any harsh comments, consider the fact that they are prob very bitter over this… Apologize, explain the situation & how u intend to fix it]
Fourth & finally
contact your uni
Explain ur situation & ur desire to re-enroll
If things go smoothly
[& i know for a fact that so many many people drop out then come back years later to take their degree… I don’t know How it works but i know it’s a normal doable thing… U should not be an odd case…]
If things don’t go smoothly
Try & try again & again
Meet different levels of management
Keep ur parents informed… They might be able to help
Even meet up with the dean or the uni president if u have to
Respectfully, calmly & briefly [in short points]
Explain exactly what happened & what u felt
Present ur grades to show that u were not careless & that doing the required effort was not the problem for you
& explain that u now realize dropping out was a mistake & wrong decision
& ask to be given a second chance
I have this gut feeling that this Will work out
One way or another
They might make a deal with u
Where u’ll be asked to work at the uni for a while
Or do extra assignments
Or somehow make up for that lost semester
Even repeat that semester u missed
Please do take that deal whatever its conditions are
do not refuse anything
Cuz that might be The Only chance u’v got
Okay
I truly wish u all the best
& i hope you could inform me of ur decision & how things worked
okay
My prayers are with you 🙂
Any news?