i want to go ONE FUCKING DAY without being fat shamed by SOMEBODY.
My grandma last night “go exercise more you’re getting fat”
My mom this morning “you’re gonna do yoga right? It helps to cut down on your fat”
My dad yesterday “cut back on sugar!!!”
When I first showed them my scars and posts, they loved me, carefully choosing words.
(Not that I want to go back to being treated like glass…)
Now, I’m the one that’s too fat and stays in her room too much.
It’s not my fucking fault that I want to not be shamed for my body by my family now is it?? If they hadn’t been so….mean I would hang out downstairs more.
And of course it’s my fucking fault.
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Totally relate-able though what i have come to understand is the intent is not of malice, but mostly ignorance, they don’t think ahead, how these comments will make you feel.
I have similar situations with my step dad , mother and my little brother, he can be excused because he is just a kid but the adults? they should know better but they simply don’t.
It’s difficult. I’m sorry, i wish they better understood you and your position, maybe they would think more thoroughly before they open their mouths.
People don’t know how their words can really mess you up! My grandmother used to make fat-shaming type of comments. Then I was bullied in junior high about my weight. The girls were so mean and boys treated me like dirt too. Then I worked out super hard and dropped a ton of weight by high school. I had a perfect body, I just didn’t realize it. Suddenly in high school, I had a bunch of friends and boys were all over me, calling me their “dream girl”. People are so shallow.
I still have weight issues because I’ve internalized those mean comments. It still nakes me feel ugly, fat and worthless. At my skinniest, I still thought I was fat. So even if you lose weight, it won’t matter much when you still have all those insecurities.
Maybe you can tell them to lay off with those comments? Maybe if you let them know it bothers you, it could help.
This seems more like people encouraging a healthier lifestyle. People seem to truly want you to stick to it and lose weight.
Fat shaming to me looks more rude, ill intended and straight up unnecessary.
IDK what YOUR specific situation is, though I wish you the best, so here’s a video of my favorite rabbit breed being cute:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5lf0R8X9-A
Just don’t let them break your spirit, that is the most important thing.
The worst thing is if malicious people throw you off course. Keep doing your thing. After all, it’s your body, your business.
“go exercise more you’re getting fat”
this statement alone is rude.
Encouraging someone with low self esteem on a topic they are sensitive about, telling them to simply do, and insult them with a comment on their weight, is not supportive or encouraging at all if anything it demotivates and hurts you.
“you’re gonna do yoga right? It helps to cut down on your fat”
not so bad, but still insulting.
You can simply say, “You should do yoga, i think it will benefit your health”
or ask “Are you going to yoga, i think it’ll be good for you”
“It helps cut down on your fat” un-needed and unnecessary remark, these remarks, to sensitive people is enough to derail them, people need to learn how to correctly approach these matters and subjects if they want to be encouraging and supportive.
“cut back on sugar!!!”
unnecessary, if you want to tell someone you think their diet might be of poor choice there is better ways to do it, sit down and explain to them you have health concerns regarding the amount of sugar they intake, show them you care solely about their health and not the size of their tummy, Being Encouraging and supportive is not done through these remarks.
Fuck them. Useless, cruel shitheads. You’re worth thousand of them.
You should set your goals according to what YOU believe. If you feel like your weight is becoming an issue, then use their comments to fuel yourself and lose weight. A little disrespect is a small price to pay for the motivation that being shamed gives you.
If however you feel okay with your weight, then yeah. Fuck ’em.
It’s hard to be judged by others. Trust me, I know how it feels to be shamed.
Your life isn’t theirs to dictate. They don’t deserve your time!!