I can’t help but visualise every possible worst outcome.
Say, if I were to consider a cashier job, all I can think about is being too slow and being faced with a long queue of angry customers. Getting told off by the manager, ridiculed by the staff and fired the next day. Getting overloaded with tasks at hand. Spontaneously having a breakdown.
I had a job once at an indoor play area which didn’t go very well. Wasn’t paid for 3 paydays and had to fight for my cash. Was told that they were receiving negative feedback left/right/centre all because of me. This was the weekend after being told my work was good. I became overloaded with potwash once. Remember being in the kitchen on my own and the plates just kept stacking up – there was no end until a couple of very nice co-workers came in to help. I felt ashamed with myself for being very behind.
Even getting a job as a housekeeper for a children’s nursery scares me. What if I do something wrong? Who knows! My parents are stressing me to get a job. My twin’s got one, so now it’s my turn. Too bad I’m frightened of signing myself up to a job agency.
I’ve tried applying for jobs before, even at McDonalds, and failed miserably. I keep wondering if its because of myself as a person. I wonder if they don’t like that. The town I live in is very much against same-sex couples, so what would they think of someone like me?
Sorry, it’s 3AM and I haven’t slept so my mind is all scrambled and I’m very sure I’m coming across as a whiny little brat who’s jealous of his sister and can’t be bothered “growing up” and heading to a job agency.
Why do I bring up same-sex couples and my “personhood”?
Probably because the chance of me getting a job sounds more promising before they receive the name change papers… oh deary me.
I apologise for making this sound like an immature rant. Whoopsies.
It’s probably not the case at all, maybe I just haven’t got the special qualities they need.
Well lots of things could go wrong, but that’s not what you want to focus on. I could try to tell you a lot of stuff that may or may not help at all, but let me put this out first. If you do find a job you think you would like to try, just go for it. There’s this quote I like…
“It’s not a question of can or can’t. There are some things in life you just do.”
Don’t question yourself, throw yourself into it, just make sure it’s something you at least feel somewhat comfortable doing.
I guess that’s the only way to find out if you can handle something or not.
I just hope the my next employers don’t give me any hassle, it’d be a shame to add another ditched job to my CV. Doesn’t bring out the best in me at all.
It sounds like you’ve hit a bad string of nasty employers and possibly some employees. If people are unwilling to accept same-sex anything at this point, they are clearly stuck in their mindset and are quite ignorant of what it means to be human. You aren’t the bad guy, they are. It’s a struggle, but struggling will get you through it, giving up will not.
Well, I do certainly need the money so I guess I’ll take your word for it and give it a go.
Plus it’s better to be depressed outside of the house rather than inside, eh? EH?
When i worked as a cashier my first night closing running register alone was hectic. The store was full with a half hour to get everything stocked up and closed down. Even with a coworker looking after me I was flustered and a little agitated. I still ended up working there half a year. You just try to keep a positive or at least professional attitude, ask questions and be interested in the job and reasonable people will try to help you out. … Also, even people who work at a place for awhile and know the ropes make mistakes or fall behind. it happens.
Thanks for the reply, Un.
I’m glad to hear that despite feeling flustered and a little agitated you continued working through it.
That surely takes some guts. I’ll try my very best to seem interested and positive.
..Eh certain aspects of a job get easier as you get used to it and are comfortable. Polite works too. I wouldnt say guts in my case, more knowing when i really needed a break and an attitude of this is it and i have to work with it somehow. Ive paid for each of my jobs in some way and at my current one i seem to have a (quiet self contained) breakdown at least once a week. But i dont have to interact with a lot of people even if im around them. Its funny because i had a rough night and someone asked what was up while saying i usually seem happy. Different environments can work better for you if you figure out what you need, like less one on one contact. Job agencies usually have a range when it comes to that.
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Anxiety?
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I can’t help but visualise every possible worst outcome.
Say, if I were to consider a cashier job, all I can think about is being too slow and being faced with a long queue of angry customers. Getting told off by the manager, ridiculed by the staff and fired the next day. Getting overloaded with tasks at hand. Spontaneously having a breakdown.
I had a job once at an indoor play area which didn’t go very well. Wasn’t paid for 3 paydays and had to fight for my cash. Was told that they were receiving negative feedback left/right/centre all because of me. This was the weekend after being told my work was good. I became overloaded with potwash once. Remember being in the kitchen on my own and the plates just kept stacking up – there was no end until a couple of very nice co-workers came in to help. I felt ashamed with myself for being very behind.
Even getting a job as a housekeeper for a children’s nursery scares me. What if I do something wrong? Who knows! My parents are stressing me to get a job. My twin’s got one, so now it’s my turn. Too bad I’m frightened of signing myself up to a job agency.
I’ve tried applying for jobs before, even at McDonalds, and failed miserably. I keep wondering if its because of myself as a person. I wonder if they don’t like that. The town I live in is very much against same-sex couples, so what would they think of someone like me?
Sorry, it’s 3AM and I haven’t slept so my mind is all scrambled and I’m very sure I’m coming across as a whiny little brat who’s jealous of his sister and can’t be bothered “growing up” and heading to a job agency.
Why do I bring up same-sex couples and my “personhood”?
Probably because the chance of me getting a job sounds more promising before they receive the name change papers… oh deary me.
I apologise for making this sound like an immature rant. Whoopsies.
It’s probably not the case at all, maybe I just haven’t got the special qualities they need.
Well lots of things could go wrong, but that’s not what you want to focus on. I could try to tell you a lot of stuff that may or may not help at all, but let me put this out first. If you do find a job you think you would like to try, just go for it. There’s this quote I like…
“It’s not a question of can or can’t. There are some things in life you just do.”
Don’t question yourself, throw yourself into it, just make sure it’s something you at least feel somewhat comfortable doing.
I guess that’s the only way to find out if you can handle something or not.
I just hope the my next employers don’t give me any hassle, it’d be a shame to add another ditched job to my CV. Doesn’t bring out the best in me at all.
It sounds like you’ve hit a bad string of nasty employers and possibly some employees. If people are unwilling to accept same-sex anything at this point, they are clearly stuck in their mindset and are quite ignorant of what it means to be human. You aren’t the bad guy, they are. It’s a struggle, but struggling will get you through it, giving up will not.
Well, I do certainly need the money so I guess I’ll take your word for it and give it a go.
Plus it’s better to be depressed outside of the house rather than inside, eh? EH?
It might not be easy, but keep fighting the fight.
Though, not sure on that last one haha, couldn’t tell ya which is “better”
When i worked as a cashier my first night closing running register alone was hectic. The store was full with a half hour to get everything stocked up and closed down. Even with a coworker looking after me I was flustered and a little agitated. I still ended up working there half a year. You just try to keep a positive or at least professional attitude, ask questions and be interested in the job and reasonable people will try to help you out. … Also, even people who work at a place for awhile and know the ropes make mistakes or fall behind. it happens.
OK guys. Just applied for a job. Wish me luck!
Thanks for the reply, Un.
I’m glad to hear that despite feeling flustered and a little agitated you continued working through it.
That surely takes some guts. I’ll try my very best to seem interested and positive.
Despite those feelings being very foreign to me nowadays, haha.
..Eh certain aspects of a job get easier as you get used to it and are comfortable. Polite works too. I wouldnt say guts in my case, more knowing when i really needed a break and an attitude of this is it and i have to work with it somehow. Ive paid for each of my jobs in some way and at my current one i seem to have a (quiet self contained) breakdown at least once a week. But i dont have to interact with a lot of people even if im around them. Its funny because i had a rough night and someone asked what was up while saying i usually seem happy. Different environments can work better for you if you figure out what you need, like less one on one contact. Job agencies usually have a range when it comes to that.