We all feel like great burdens at one time or another, it’s simply how we feel. The thing to learn from that, is to make sure it does not dictate your thoughts and actions. Don’t forget that just because you feel like you are a burden to someone, that does NOT mean that you actually are.
I’m not sure I or anyone could help with that… for most of us, our memories were better times, and as shitty as we feel, they will feel more real, or rather, more desirable, than the present. However the present is very much real, thats the first thing that needs accepting, the second, what we are going to do about it to make it better.
I actually feel the same way in my relationship. i love my partner but sometimes I’m not in a relationship, I’m haunted by what I’ve done. i don’t know if i should try to forget it, i don’t know if I’m allowed. i wonder if leaving would be better to find a clean slate, but that will never erase what was done.
Every time i face the reality of whats been done i resort back to a destructive mindset, even if i dont act on it. Maybe i just really suck at letting go. But i dont know how to reach closure on my own and i cant see certain things as ever being ok.
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We all feel like great burdens at one time or another, it’s simply how we feel. The thing to learn from that, is to make sure it does not dictate your thoughts and actions. Don’t forget that just because you feel like you are a burden to someone, that does NOT mean that you actually are.
I know i can possibly control the feeling of being a burden, but dp you have any advice on a past that seems more real than the present?
I’m not sure I or anyone could help with that… for most of us, our memories were better times, and as shitty as we feel, they will feel more real, or rather, more desirable, than the present. However the present is very much real, thats the first thing that needs accepting, the second, what we are going to do about it to make it better.
I actually feel the same way in my relationship. i love my partner but sometimes I’m not in a relationship, I’m haunted by what I’ve done. i don’t know if i should try to forget it, i don’t know if I’m allowed. i wonder if leaving would be better to find a clean slate, but that will never erase what was done.
Every time i face the reality of whats been done i resort back to a destructive mindset, even if i dont act on it. Maybe i just really suck at letting go. But i dont know how to reach closure on my own and i cant see certain things as ever being ok.