I’m more over her than I have been before, but for some reason I keep dreaming that we’re still together, or together again. I mean, I barely think about her anymore when I’m awake, but I also never used to dream about her this much. This makes no sense.
I want to know what it feels like to cut, but damn I couldn’t live with the scars, especially now during summer. I can’t hide them here or around my family, and they’d likely stay fo the rest of my life. I hope I won’t give in to the temptation.
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Why can’t you be together?
Couple of thousand miles between us, and she hates me.
Resist the temptation! I’ve seen so many people here who are addicted to cutting and can’t stop. It’s so much easier if you never start.
My guess is you’re dreaming about her because you’re still processing it subconsciously.
I’m trying to. Right now I am fine, and I don’t feel the temptation at all, but I know there’ll be days again where I do, and that’s kind of what I am scared about. I am not really sure how I should prepare for those days, because if they come I’ll be feeling shitty and there’s not much I can do about that. The only thing I can change is whether I cut, but like I said, I wouldn’t know how to influence that decision beforehand.
One thing to be mindful of is that we tend to make worse decisions when we are sleep-deprived. Also, just in general, the longer it’s been since you rested/slept, the more depleted your willpower.
But you can also just make a plan, because habits work like this:
cue-routine-reward
When you get the cue to cut, i.e. you feel particularly miserable or whatever, have some prepared routine lined up. It can be pretty much whatever isn’t harmful. Preferably something rewarding.
Maybe step outside and take a really deep breath of fresh air. Listen to music (not about cutting, something more calming). Just whatever little quick routine you can use to train yourself to THAT being what you do when the cue of “I feel like cutting” comes along.
Same thing is happening to me except it’s about my ex-best friend of 10 years. Like you, I don’t think about her when awake yet she’s always in my dream and it just doesn’t make any sense because I’ve cut ties with her and haven’t spoken to her for over 4 years now. I’ve thought about it a lot and am thinking maybe we’re dreaming about them because we are subconsciously missing the feeling of the close bond/love/happy times we had with someone and that we’re not actually missing them as the person just that they are the symbol of the feelings we miss and want to have again? Either that or the universe is telling us they are part of our destiny or some sh*t. The latter makes more sense.