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by Isolated

So I just told my family that I was sexually assaulted a few months ago and my last boyfriend (3 years ago) use to abuse me. They yelled at me for creating my own drama.

The reason I finally told them was because when I was assulted I was at a gig wearing a low cut top. After it happened I blamed myself. I shouldn’t of worn that, it was my own fault. After about 2 weeks I realised that if a person gets raped it’s not their fault no matter what they were wearing! It’s always the offenders fault. I wasn’t raped but I decided that the assault wasn’t my fault and I should wear that top if I’m comfortable in it!! So I put it on tonight for the first time since it happened and my whole family decided to tell me how “slutty it was” and “there will be boys there”. I proceeded to tell them that I was an adult and could wear what I want and those boys should be able to control themselves. I was still made to wear a jacket. Then that confirmed the self blame. I deserved to get assulted because I wore a low cut top.


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oracle 8/10/2017 - 1:20 pm

Well. The precise judgment is that none of you had the right to do what each did:

1. You don’t have the right to place another person in a situation where is both sexually aroused and yet he must go through the effort of restraining himself. This is a kind of psychological harassment for the sole purpose of getting your own kick at having others desire you.

2. He does not have the right to sexually assault anyone.

You are also a victim of the filthy leftist neofeminist propaganda that is so prevalent in Western countries. So you can make yourself beautiful, attractive without pushing others. The bonus that you will get is that you will get the best men around, in terms of values and character.

Shadow 8/10/2017 - 2:35 pm

“Oracle” get off your misogynistic high horse and stfu. There I feel better. And btw I am male but not an asshole and not a leftist so don’t bother trying to label me as “the enemy”. She had every right to wear whatever the fuck she wanted, or nothing at all, just like you have the right to wear a t-shirt that says “I hate women” and even though I would be “violently aroused” to the point of beating the shit out of you, I should show restraint or be held criminally responsible and 100% at fault.

Isolated, please ignore your family’s pathetic reaction as well as the Neanderthal attitudes of pseudo-men/boys around here. You should be able to wear what you want, express yourself as you want and live without the fear of someone committing violence upon you. Such “men” are just fucking cowards whom I’d love to beat to a pulp but I have the superiority of control. Besides, I saw my fair share of violence in 2 tours of active service. That’s why violence of any sort, and the cowardly excuses that go with, disgusts me.

PhotographyIsMyLife 8/10/2017 - 5:59 pm

So, oracle, you are going to put women in burkas because men can’t control themselves? Give me a f%&king break. By the way, I am a liberal and damn proud of it. I’m a guy, and tbh your comment about “he must go through the effort of restraining himself…” really pissed me off and sends women the wrong message. If a dude (or anyone) can’t control themselves, maybe he shouldn’t attend an event like that.
Isolated, nobody has a right to put their hands on you without your consent. Period. Taylor Swift is suing a DJ for $1.00 over that fact. I don’t care you’re wearing. Express yourself. Have fun. If anything, be aware of your surroundings and be safe.

a1957 8/10/2017 - 7:59 pm

The perps, and only the perps, are to be blamed. People have have been known to rape or molest regardless of what the victim is wearing. The clothing being worn at the time, no matter what it is or who you are, is only going to be attractive to a small segment of the population anyway.
Out of concern for my granddaughters I have been googling about rape and molestation and trying to pass on any useful advice I find from time to time. From what I have read it is a party sport with a few despicable men. From what I have read there are patterns as to where, when, and how these violators operate. I hope this helps and I hope it never never happens to you again.

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