Darkling I listen
Suicide – it’s something I’ve thought about for a while, but only from the perspective of escape. It seems like a way out of all the pain that is life. Most people don’t experience life this way so they won’t understand when I call life pain. “Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.” So true, Mr. Goldman, so true.
Anyway, I started watching 13 Reasons Why without any expectations other than the main actor reminds me of a young Freddie Price, Jr. Am I dating myself there? Probably.
Probably no one will read this, and that’s okay. In some ways, I hope no one does. My words just out in the ether (aether, maybe?). Is that the correct usage? I wonder.
Back to the show. I started watching 13 Reasons Why today, and it’s hitting me harder than I expected. Not for the reasons one might assume. As someone who has thought about suicide, written about suicide, and attempted suicide twice, the idea is not unfamiliar or even frightening. It’s almost comforting in a weird way. There’s still part of me that thinks of death as falling asleep: “Fade far away, dissolve, and quite forget/What thou among the leaves hast never known.” The irony is that the nightingale has known nothing but pain if one really thinks about the origins of the story: Philomela, the stumped tongue saying “Jug Jug” for all you T.S. Elliot fans. But I digress.
Death, for me, does not seem as scary or painful as the possibility of continuing to live. I say “to live” deliberately and not “of continuing life” because I’m realizing that living is action. Does that make sense? I imagine Hannah would feel the same if she hadn’t been successful.
I didn’t account for the people left behind. The image of her parents at her locker – that’s what’s haunting me. “Why is it like that?” the mother asks. That’s the question my parents would be asking about my stuff in my apartment if they had to sort through it. That thought is chilling. There would be more questions than answers, questions I wouldn’t have to answer but they would have to deal with. Could I handle that, even if I was gone?
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Young Freddie Prince Jr? I don’t see it. Isn’t that the same kid who was McLovin in Superbad?
Nope, that’s a different guy. This is what I’m talking about: https://content5.promiflash.de/article-images/video_1080/dylan-minnette-und-freddie-prinze-junior-collage.jpg
yes! Freddie prinz jr! I kept thinking he looked like someone but couldn’t place who it was! Not the point of your post, I know. Sorry. But yeah, I agree that they did a really good job portraying the pain of the parents. Kate Walsh was stunning as the mom.
I worry about this too. My little niece wondering why I never came home again. My mom having to face people. And my friends. Especially my best friend who took me to the hospital during a suicidal crisis. She suffers from depression and I wonder if, when I do this (which I’m pretty certain I will), will it cause he tto spiral? Will she think she should have done more to help? She tends to take on too much in an unrealistic way and I will explain in my note that there isn’t anything she could have done, but still. Knowing and feeling are two different things.
Also, again not the point but I am a grammar nerd and I tried to stop myself but I couldn’t: ether, and yes, you used it correctly. (Aether also exists as a less common spelling but is used for a more specific meaning:
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ether)
ALso I really appreciated your T.S. Elliot reference