Well, At least it’s what it seems to me. At movies and in other shows, I see that kids use to move from their parents house when college begins. And then, they really dont have so much contact with family. Live with parents after 18 years old is seem like a bad thing, a thing to be embarrassed of, which is weird for me, cause where I live children live with their parents until they get married, and that doesn’t mean their are spoiled or cant live by theirself.
Also, it is very commom read here in SP people complain about how their are mistreated by the mother or father and how they dont have family support.
I think that is the only thing about my poor culture that I like. People are very supportive. Why do you think american people are that way, so distant, so cold?
P.S Sorry about my poor english. Still learning
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I suppose it works both ways. If you get along with your parents/family, then it’s a good idea to stay close. But if you are different, then it would be oppressive to live with your parents for too long.
My parents are ok, but we see the world very differently. I was so happy to move away at age 18, it was the best time of my life. But yes, I agree that Americans are more distant toward their families than in other countries I have visited.
America’s social fabric is so atomized at this point that we all might as well pop out of the womb in shrink-wrapped boxes with bar codes printed on the back.
with a return label “back to sender”
I am American living with American parents at 23 and 3 months.
I had a job but I lost it and haven’t been hired anywhere else since
By choice, I did not opt for the college route.
By great imagination, I devised a plan for my future that did not involve a 9-5 job leaving me time for my hobbies and devices that I love and hold onto dearly.
The only problem I have found with that plan is a way to afford. I planned to work and save money. I could save enough money in a year and a half of work probably. Any work that does not require a degree.
My plan is build a cozy place with my own two hands and not opt for the realtor, set mortgage, insurance, credit (as I feel they charge way too much that is just not realistic. I always liked the idea of cutting out the middle man and being the one to do this all.) I did not even want to have a bank account and be connected in that way, but instead have cash kept in a safe. I do not plan to receive medical care as I believe in naturopathic remedies much more. Which I excel in. I do not abuse my body so I would not need medical care for an illness. I believe in the salt of the earth and not competing for a living. Not competing for the resources you need. I believe in the earth providing it to you when you need it. I believe in this plan. I’m not here to save a million $ and then retire after spending 40 hours a week working for some man. I am the man. I will work for myself. I will die young if I die young. I will live a long life if I live a long life. I am not going to hold myself to a routine.
I expected this would have happened by now, my house built and all, it has not. Causing me to sink into sadness. Even worse than not having it happened yet is law enforcement track me. (I used to smoke marijuana- it helped me create things.) I do not even like the field of study. I owe money to government. I never wanted to be involved in government. Ok, one arrest that is fine. They fine me for the most minor of things. Why are they always watching? What is wrong with that. Why does it cost money to die? Why do I need life insurance? Why do they charge you 3 years of work for a box of steel with tires
And rev?
Things don’t just happen. Especially if it runs contrary to the standard pattern for development. Once you step outside the lines, things get very difficult, very quickly. It’s by design. The idea is to make everybody so subservient to the status quo that any disruption feels like an existential threat to a majority of people. The consequence of it all is ironic. You have to be rich to live a life of subsistence. At least, if you want to do it legally.
America thrives on this idea of individuality and egotism. Parents want their children to be perfect versions of themselves. Or they have kids of the government assistance then neglect them. Everyone can do anything so just keep dreaming and want it bad enough. Even if you have no culture, faith, or community, or ethics, just want it bad enough and dream big enough, go out and fly and if you fail it’s your fault even though we made you like this.
like death by i am also 23 living with parents. a misdemeanor or two and some bad bills. Ever since i was 17-18 i felt ashamed at living in my circumstances. My excuse is that i needed all these years to work out my issues. I dont really care anymore. Some of the kids i went to highschool with have goverment jobs, families and houses, others live off their parents or are barely scraping by, went to prison etc.
everyone is different. I guess it;s just important that you’re earnestly trying to move up and better your life. Not always so obvious how to do that and hard to make it happen when you do know.
I wouldn’t say it thrives, but the economy seems to enjoy it a lot.