Like many stories here, my life came crashing down around me. I lost my family, my life, my dreams. My family was everything to me, and when my wife asked for divorce after 18 years, I fell apart.
I know I should be mature and accept what her decision is, however it hurts. It still hurts. I’m not an attractive person (she is now) and even as a man, I feel like I “wasted” my years on her.
She has never spoken to me since 2014. Not once. We have two kids, and she forces me to use a website to communicate.
She will never talk to me again, and she has a boyfriend now. It’s killing me. What is wrong with me?
I don’t really want to die, but I can’t handle the pain anymore. Four years of panic attacks, nightmares, sadness and pain. I’m alone, I have no friends, no family, nothing.
My marriage was good I thought. I really did. I believe that “we” were supposed to be. I never wanted to hurt anyone, least of all her.
I really believed we were friends. Actually friends.
I have no hope. I’m too old to find anyone now (50). I’m not sure I could care again. When it all ended, my ability to enjoy life, my passion, disappeared.
I don’t want to go. I truly don’t. But I’m so lost. I found out she has a boyfriend now.
After 18 years, it meant nothing to her? Not even friends one day?
It just seems like it was all for nothing.
4 comments
I hope she didn’t leave you after 18 for a younger man
Men do this all the time
Your story is really sad. But you are not old att all. If you want you can find someone.
The worst part of your story is that even four years later you are still in pain.
I had the exactly same problem and it has been just a year ago. Still hurts too much. I think time doesnt help as people say.
She must have a good reason (something that SHE believes is a good reason, I mean) for talking to you only via the Internet only. In your case, If I believed that being able to talk to her would help me to move on, I would try to identify what is her reason and show her that she doesn’t need to worry about that, promise her that whatever she fears won’t happen and that I just needed a little help — just remember to keep whatever promise you make, otherwise she wouldn’t trust you again.