I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard those words, and I can’t tell you how much I hate them.
Self-love is stupid and I want no part of it. I will never, ever love Katrina, because loving her would mean accepting all of the bad parts of her. All of her flaws, all of the awful things she’s done (and will do), all of the pain she’s caused, all of her mistakes, all of her vices, every disgusting and evil little piece of her.
And I can’t do that. I just fucking can’t. It would be wrong, wrong, wrong.
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Love the version of you that is “your best self” and keep in mind your flaws and mistakes so you can improve and not repeat them in the future. (Also understand your triggers, so that you can leave those situations until you’re calmer, instead of making it worse for yourself or others.)
If you were a person who said, “I burn down random places with cigarettes for fun because it makes me feel good and I love myself for that” it would be an example of damaging, selfish, self-destructive behavior. That would be something you are supposed to work past so you can stop, rather than accept as an okay behavior.
Always respect yourself even if you’ve made a mistake. Don’t let other people beat you up for your mistakes if you’ve admitted them and apologized.
You seem to really believe that you have a choice
someone gave me sht for saying this a few days ago. I dont like it either but the simple fact is no one can move forward while holding THEMSELVES back. as though the entire world of problems out there isn’;t bad enough we also hate our own damn selves to just finish the goddamn icing on this shitcake called life.
also i find it’s often an excuse. punish and push yourself down to avoid the difficulty of helping and lifting yourself up.
Being told love your self makes about as much sense to me as telling a wounded soldier just be healed.
No, it makes sense. IMO, it means to “be kind to yourself” (like self-care, and as much independence as possible, so you aren’t at the mercy of others, whilst also maintaining healthy relationships), “be kind to other people, and stand up for yourself if others aren’t kind to you,” “strive for what you want” (go to class, study, or show up on time for work and do a good job, save up money, etc), “don’t engage in self-destructive behaviors,” and “don’t stay in an abusive situation if you have the choice to leave,” et cetera.
no just hate yourself that works. the wounded soldier will be better if he just opens his wounds further
After years of doing this sort of things I am just starting to think of loving myself. Years.
The above was for inherent vice.
Further to what I.V. has said, it will take many weeks/months/years/lifetimes for an individual such as ourselves who frequent a site like SP to truly grasp the concept of “self-love”. That is, unless, someone decides to lay it down for you and say it straight to your face – “learn to love yourself”. As a self-deprecating idiot with a thing for masochistic behaviour, I’ve always laughed at the notion of me “loving myself”. But when I look back at those events in my life where things went from “absolutely outstanding” to “SNAFU Shitshow in less than a second”, I realise that it ALL came down to ME and my inability to love and accept myself for who I am.
A prime example would be in relationships: despite every reassurance and encouragement from my SO, I cannot help but to see myself as utterly worthless/disgustingly hideous/undeserving of their love, amongst other things. It’s completely unwarranted, and I know that! Yet my mind continues to drive my own spirit into the ground – therefore ruining relationships/friendships, and causing even more hardship for all involved.
I know there are many different sides to myself, some of which are good natured and kind, and others which would do extraordinary damage in the wrong circumstances. There are, however, a multitude of qualities that each part of me possesses, and the objective for me would be sourcing those qualities I’ve seen in myself and amalgamating them as the best possible version of myself that I can be. From there, it’d be a matter of giving myself time, and really understanding what it is that sets off my self-hatred and knowing how best to deal with it effectively. Then, and only then, will I truly be able to love myself.
I’m not going to get any further in life if I don’t accept and love myself for the perfectly flawed, often weird, hori bastard that I am – nor do I want to destroy any more friendships/relationships, now and into the future.
As it says in the book of John: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” – we must become one with ourselves if we’re ever to be truly “whole”. As we love those around us whom we hold nearest, so to should we love the one person who makes it all possible — ourselves.
(I don’t always adhere to that particular book, but there are parts which I’ve adapted to my own philosophy of life.)
Anyway, I’ll stop my rambling. I have some washing to go and hang out in 30 degrees Celsius heat.
Take care, folks.
self love is vital, i feel like, naturally, our spiritual selves would be nothing but love, but in this earthly realm, demonic influence overrides this. imagine if we all loved ourselves? the world would be a much nicer place. but in the media, which we’re all influenced by, we are constantly made to feel inferior. it’s a shame.
i don’t watch television, i rarely watch movies, and i don’t read pop magazines. i try to avoid the media. as i am convinced that it’s brainwashing, and i like to develop my own view on things.
i mainly watch youtube videos, i enjoy reading comments, and i surf the web. no po*n, none of that. i try to keep it clean. occasionally, i will go on bestgore, but that’s cause my morbid self likes “inspiration” and also likes to be reminded of how f-ed up this world really is.