I was prescribed oxalate/escitalopram a few years ago but dont take it now because it would kill any drive and numbs everything.
When i was single i didnt care. It improved my mood and made me feels heaps better.
I’m in my late twenties and in a relationship now and I can’t afford to not enjoy sex!! I struggle enough getting everything to work when the time arises ( if you get my meaning 😉 LOL) but, on the meds, he might as well be fucking my toes because i wouldnt feel anything.
Is there another antidepressant that doesnt do this. Maybe i can play around with the dose – a small dose might do it less?
This question has been bothering me for a while too- do guys (or girls) care if the girl doesnt have more than one orgasm? Haha i feel so stupid asking this but I feel like I’m not ‘performing’ enough for him or something. 🙁 or im just shit in bed.
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i was on antidepressants once. did the same to me. ive also read that this is a common side effect of taking them. you win some, you lose some. seems to be the anthem of life.
I’m a guy and I had a similar problem with escitalopram, except that it didn’t ever improve my mood. Actually, it left my drive intact, but it kept me from “performing.” Not good. The happiest it ever made me was when I got off that stuff.
I tried Wellbutrin (aka bupropion) and it didn’t have any sexual side effects. It didn’t improve my mood either, but maybe it would work for you. It did have some other side effects, mainly insomnia. Might be worth looking into, at least.
As for your last question…any guy who’s disappointed at his partner having only one orgasm is pretty stupid. There may be guys like that out there, but I’m pretty sure there aren’t very many. Sure, it’s great if you have multiple orgasms, but that’s sort of a “bonus”–it’s not the sort of thing any reasonable guy should expect routinely. Guys are more likely to worry about whether you have an orgasm at all.
When I was on antipsychotics, my dick went pretty limp. I don’t know if it’s the same for women – but to an extent, I presume it is: circulation matters. Which is why things such as exercise, good, regular sleep (7-9 hours, going to bed at the same time every evening), and healthy eating (lots of vegetables and good proteins) help a lot.
For your partner, his testosterone peaks from 6-9 a.m. So that is the optimal time to have (gentle) sex. Gentle, because it’s also the time of day your blood is thickest, so the risk of heart attacks etc. are highest.
For frisky sex, 3-6 p.m. is best, because that’s when your body temperature peaks, and your lung and cardiovascular performance does too.
Regarding the mental side of it: Enjoy yourself. Put your own needs first. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but there is sort of nothing as hot as someone who is really enjoying themselves with your body. I used to have some performance anxiety – was very self-conscious with women. But after I learned this trick, I perform better, I have way more fun, and they seem to enjoy it more as well.
Good luck
Also, if you can, definitely scale back the meds – but sloowly, sloowly. They can allegedly wreak havoc on not only your sex life, but your love life too.