I don’t know how to move forward right now. I feel so broken… my boyfriend is going through a really hard time right now and I can’t help him. I’m also going through a hard time right now… not that it matters. I’m always going through a hard time. Ha. He’s always so exhausted from work and is not even the slightest bit affectionate towards me… I don’t think he loves me anymore, and that’s the hardest thing for me to try and accept. I’ve almost spent two years with him, and I feel like he is slipping through my fingers. I don’t want to give up on this. He’s the love of my life… but I can’t find him anymore. What should I do? Please help. Anyone.
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Well, he could very well be turning into what the system forces some people to turn into. Slaves.
Slaves have their human qualities beaten out of them through the cruelty inflicted by their masters, so they can no longer enjoy human things like love for a partner of the opposite sex.
Its a way of destroying people for the benefit of the elite who do nothing to produce the wealth they enjoy. Thats the world. Always has been.
You are just residing in the wake of destruction the powerful make for the rest of us. And yes, it ruins everything. But on the bright side, there are a handful of people in the world who are able to herd men and woman as world animals and never have to anything hard ever.
Thats why you are suffering. SO they can live fantasy lives.
When people work too much and are exhausted, they don’t want to be affectionate. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, but the man’s tired. Let him rest and go through the tough work schedule of the holidays.
I may agree with D47, of course, I’m not your boyfriend so I don’t really know the truth. But when I read your post I actually felt like your boyfriend in a way. My girl of around 2 years has been upset lately because I’m not affectionate as I once was and she has voiced her suspicions at times of whether or not I still love her. I’m not affectionate, this is true. I’m tired from work all the time and often gone due to the nature of my work. She wants me to be as affectionate as I once was but the problem for me is this- when I was affectionate it was genuine and that’s what was nice about it and the feeling of feigning affection is almost patronizing and demeaning in a way. I’m tempted to fake affectionate behavior in attempts to reassure her that I do in fact love her (which I do)- but it just feels so fake and unreal to do that which takes away from the authenticity of the real feelings I do have for her. At least when I do become, on the rare occasion, affectionate we both know it is real. It’s a dilemma haha
I don’t think he doesn’t love you anymore, it just sounds like work’s draining him to the point where he’s not up for much else..
You should maybe explain yourself to him, see how he responds, and go from there..
It’s hard, but be patient with him. Being exhausted all the time makes people cranky, and upset. Your needs are important too, just so you know.