So I have been dating this really nice faithful guy for about 5months now but bcuz of my last relationships it just has me question does he really truly love me or is he just using me like the others, or what if he has sumbody else on the side, im going crazy with questions. It feels like he really loves me but then again it all seems so unreal or like a trick or set up that will leave me broken and lonely again…..I dont know what to think right now.
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Perhaps some study is in order. When I was considering going into relationships or staying in one I used a book entitled Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus to help me sort things out. Really not so bewildering after reading and applying what the book suggested. The results were excellent. Up to now I would say this is the one part of my life that is actually good.
If you like this guy then just keep going along with it, be faithful to him, and don’t sabotage things.
If you haven’t already asked if you’re in an exclusive relationship and if he agrees to be your boyfriend, you should ask. Some people take that decision seriously and won’t cheat if they know you are committed.
Have an honest discussion with him-ask him if he’s exclusively with you or seeing other people. It’s best to clear the air, hear his intentions. This also sets the baseline-if he prefers an open relationship and you don’t, then you know what to do.
But being paranoid, acting suspicious, insecure might just turn him off. Also if he says he’s not seeing anyone else but you later find he was, then you know what sort of character he is.
Additionally whatever will happen, will happen-so there’s no point in worrying about it. If the person I’m with claims to be honest/loyal, I will take them at their word. I’m not going to upset myself wondering if she/he is cheating on me-until some concrete evidence emerges. If the person was cheating, I’d get rid of them the same day and warn others that they’re liars.
Till then you should just trust people implicitly if you feel they have integrity to begin with.