SPD and BDP

Thanks for clarifying 🙂

I’m schizotypal, and I happen to own a book (in Danish, so not much use to you, probably) about the borderline and schizotypal personality disorders. It’s from 2003, so probably not up-to-date, but it says that treatment (for borderline) requires a stable therapist. Someone reliable, in other words. As far as I understand, borderline people vascillate between being very smitten with others, and feeling betrayed and hating those same people. Trust issues, I guess you could call it. Might explain why you like someone schizoid, who is a bit indifferent to other people (again as far as I understand). It’s important for the therapist to set boundaries to avoid the patient developing a symbiotic relationship with the therapist. Therapy focuses on teaching the patient to understand and recognize symptoms in the present, rather than dwell on past events. This can help the patient manage symptoms. Borderline people often act impulsively, before thinking. Teaching them to stop and think before acting can be helpful. Therapy is also used to help them develop a unified sense of self, instead of sometimes overestimating, sometimes underestimating themselves. This changing sense of self is often sort of projected onto other people, dividing them up into good and bad. The prognosis is not bad. Therapy seems more helpful than medication.

tl;dr It might be helpful to better understand your symptoms, so that you can better deal with them. You may like your housemate because he is emotionally cold and hence less affected by your mood swings. Therapy can be helpful, especially learning to think before you act. Seek out stable people. People you can depend upon. Also try to develop a more coherent view of yourself.

Good luck

Thanks for saying that, iceberg 🙂

I actually crushed hard on a young woman with this diagnosis some years back. One of the most interesting people I have met. I wasn’t the only one she had charmed lol.

Wow, I’m sorry 🙁

Yeah, I hear that. I generally have a problem of being attracted to cold-hearted women. I dunno if it’s because I’m so emotional myself.