So, my experiences with therapy are pretty bad. My personality is straight forward and I can’t STAND overly pitting someone and faking being extremely happy and energetic. That’s what all my therapists were like. They’d be super preppy and hyper, be over dramatically pitiful and say everything with this tone like I’m a little kid. And when my parents said this new therapist is straight forward and perfect for me, I believed them. But he’s literally the exact same way, not being straight forward, not addressing the problem and looking for a solution. He laughed a little too hard when I cracked jokes, smiled obnoxiously throughout, acted like he felt so sorry for me when I told him about my panic attack I had, and got way too personal way too fast for me. And worst of all, I knew him before I found out he was my therapist. He’s my brother’s best friend’s DAD.
I need someone straight forward. Doesn’t sugar coat anything, tells me when I’m being stupid without trying to not hurt my feelings, and doesn’t fake being welcoming. I want someone to just be themselves and who I enjoy taking to, who takes time to ask very personal questions. You know what I mean? It was just my first day so I don’t know if I should just stick with it. Are all therapists like this? I need someone to tell me what I need to do.
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If I was seeing these people that you go through with my eyes they would look like loony cartoons. That’s creepy that you know the guy. Bet your parents talk or something and they want their relationships to loop around and include you or something.
What you described here is almost everything that makes me hate being alive.
From my experience you have to at least like your therapist. The fact that he’s your brother’s best friend’s dad would make me feel uncomfortable. You deserve to have a therapist you can be open with. Sometimes it may take a few sessions. I’ve been to doctors that were true assholes. Since I’m paying them I expect to be treated a certain way. You may be picky about who you want but I think that only you know what you’re expecting from therapy. You shouldn’t be forced to see someone who makes you uncomfortable. Good luck.
I would honestly try to find a therapist you will like on your own (if you’re of an age where you have that option) I’d personally view seeing your bros best friends dad as a total conflict of interest. For me, I found it’s most helpful to speak with a total stranger as a therapist.. There’s no fear of them breaking confidentiality. email a few (if possible) in your area and tell them what you’re looking for and what you wont accept. Good luck!
Well, I can answer one question at least…no, not all therapists are like that. I’ve had several who definitely didn’t seem like very happy people themselves. I’ve also had several who barely talked at all…there was one in particular who made me think “This is like getting therapy from a brick wall.”
Of course, that might not be what you’re looking for either. If there’s a positive point, it’s that some therapists are a lot different from each other, so it maybe it will pay to keep looking for one who suits you.