My husband completed in July…. he planned it meticulously, no idea for how long… this is what he did.
6 weeks prior to his death, he wiped all the messages on his FRIEND’s phone from him.
3 weeks prior to his death, he backed up all his photos online.
Some time prior to his death, most likely in the days leading up to it, he wrote a note, and a long list of alleged abuse I’d done to him. He took the time to google the correct spellings and grammar, he didn’t rush it.
In the week leading up to his death, at some point he retrieved his driving licence from my purse (I had it as we’d used it on holiday abroad) for ID purposes when he was found. I believe he did this a few days before he died.
He set reminders on his phone to remind him to get his licence, wipe his GPS etc (he has a terrible memory!)
He secretly stashed away £1300 in cash that I didn’t know about.
On the day he chose, he left work early with a reasonable excuse to make sure he got to the shop on time to collect his equipment.
He purchased his equipment using eBay, changing his password to prevent me noticing as we shared the account though I rarely used it. He collected the items in person, approximately 45 miles from our home. On his way, his friend phoned him and he told him he was going for a drive and would see him the next day (knowing he wouldn’t).
I can’t account for what he did from 5pm-10.00pm.
At 10.30pm he deactivated facebook, went through his emails etc, signed out of the apps and took his passcode off his iPhone. Wiped all his browsing history and anything incriminating.
At 11.45pm he drove to the place he chose to die, scoped out the car park and drove off. He wiped his GPS.
At 1.15am he went back to the car park. Sent me his final email. Took his life. Left the notes on the seat next to him.
At 6.00am he was found.
Anyone else plan so meticulously, and why?
His method was chosen because it was guaranteed, quick and painless – but everything else seems so calculated and unnecessary. Surely if he was desperate he’d just do it? Why would he care if he wiped his GPS or not? There was nothing to hide.
The only thing I can think of is he knew I would obsess and piece it all together, and he was angry at me, so he did all this to hurt me, and make my OCD go mad.
It just doesn’t sound desperate it sounds planned and calculated.