In 2017 I made one of the biggest mistakes of my life that I’ll probably never forget. And I’m just sitting here like, I could ruin a persons happiness so easily right now. I helped my friend cheat on his girlfriend of 2 years at the time, now almost 3 years. And I was on Facebook and I saw a picture of them together, happy. And the first thing that came into my head when I saw that was “I could ruin this relationship. I could make that girl in the picture hate my guts and probably cause them issues that may make them break up” but I won’t do that. None of it was her fault, she doesn’t deserve the hurt that me and my ex friend could cause her if we told her. It never meant to happen, but it just did. One day this lie I’m living will break me. One day I’ll probably have the courage to tell her, but she doesn’t need that pain. Not while their happy. I’ll let them be happy.
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It’s only fair to her that she knows especially if she’s “in love with him”
She a big girl
What you said is probably true but it’s only 1 piece of the story. If you want to be fair, you should ask yourself if you were deceived and cheated on, would you want to know? Or continue being deceived? I personally would want to know, even if it ruins a 3 year “happy” relationship. I wouldn’t want to waste another day with someone who betrayed me.
The next thing you should ask is, does your friend deserve to be happy? Patting himself on the back because he got away with it? In law, when someone is aware of a crime but doesn’t report it, that person is complicit. As you say, this lie will break you because it isn’t just your friend’s problem, it’s yours. Even if you didn’t do the actual screwing, you drove the getaway car.
Dishonesty and betrayal is a very complex matter, you have to really look at it from all angles, the most important being, if you were the victim how would you want things to be resolved (not just for the moment but for the future).
Just my take. Btw I’m not judging but just presenting logical perspective. If you are morally ok with what your friend did as well as your role, then obviously there’s no problem.