When your actions cause someone else pain, just remind them how they have hurt you wors before and they no longer deserve apologies or love. #Fuckyoukarmanobodyaskedforyouropinion
that is what life taught me today, anyways
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And if they have never hurt you, what then?
Remind them of how you are human.
Good. I also believe in a brick for a brick. But I am never the one to initiate.
When it comes to being a human I think it’s an even playing field.
Jjoking aside, I knew I should have been less passive aggressive.
In response to flutterby, I know people make mistakes and you might even really mess up bad sometimes. I know I have. And it sucks. You can’t undo it and it will take a lot of time and work to make things right again.
But, I would think it starts with an honest apology and maybe an effort to try to put yourself in the other persons position to realise what pain you have caused.
I just hate that when I do confront someone else about something they did that genuinely hurt me
they respond with some sort of emotional lockdown and shame me for having the audacity to look for sympathy when I have behaved worse in the past.
So, to hatedbyGOD, obviously one should try to avoid messing up and it sucks when ou eventually do mess up. It’s hard to admit and harder to mend and atone. I hope you’re dealing with it better than I am. If there is a point where you have to forgive yourself I know I couldn’t do it without help. You would think one would deserve a little help.
I guess you can’t control how people behave. You can only try to become better yourself. You can choose the people you’re around with, though. Sometimes you do.
I have a very small circle of people around me, just family and a few friends. I work from home, so don’t have to face phonies and manipulators that are plenty at workplaces. Anyway, when you need help, l or someone else will be here.
Have a good day 🙂
@hatedbygod The person I speak of is very close to me, which makes this so difficult. I generally value their opinion very much. It’s just an issue that comes up regularly whenever I try to make a remark or voice some concern; this averting of any criticism. Messing up has made me quick to blame myself and look for faults in my own behavior first. So, it has taken me quite a while to notice this pattern in our interaction. They just deflect every issue by bringing up my behavior.
Maybe it is justified, I guess the truth lies somewhere in the middle. It feels pretty tedious to discuss something this vague whit no concrete examples. I don’t know, it might be too soon. I might have damaged this beyond repair. Thank you for your time.
How many hands does one need, to clap? Two.
The fault can never be completely yours. That is very rare.
If you can, take a break from this person. Observe others. See how they behave.
It’s good to find fault with oneself and then work on them. But you should look for genuine faults. Not everything you do, that annoys someone else, is necessarily wrong. Maybe the other person is wrong and doesn’t get your point.
When you feel you are right, in your gut, then stick to that right even if everyone else thinks it’s wrong.
I don’t know if I make much sense. I just wish you luck.